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Posted by Glydin on June 18, 2006, at 11:14:13
If you find yourself with philosophical differences with how a board trend is going AND you’ve posted your points of differing opinions yet you see the “whole picture” (as in: the major of posters sharing like ideas) as differing greatly with how you feel - should you just leave it alone? Or continue to keep posting the same thing over and over? Maybe I’m answering my own question, I dunno.
I’m not speaking of this board but I am speaking of a board on this site. I’m having a difficult time with this as that board was my “hidey hole” in public sight for a long while - my diversion, my contact, and something that made me feel part of something. For quite a while, I was in agreement with a lot of the things I saw posted. But, I’ve changed and I’ve seen that board change, yet it’s still difficult to not at least read it.
I’m not sure why it is important to me other than a place of comfort and support has turned into a place for me to get p*ssed off and frustrated. I almost feel in some weird state of mourning. Strange.
Posted by TexasChic on June 18, 2006, at 12:04:54
In reply to Kinda Deep Question, posted by Glydin on June 18, 2006, at 11:14:13
> I’m not sure why it is important to me other than a place of comfort and support has turned into a place for me to get p*ssed off and frustrated. I almost feel in some weird state of mourning. Strange.
That makes sense. When something you relied on to comfort you goes away, you will mourn it.
> If you find yourself with philosophical differences with how a board trend is going AND you’ve posted your points of differing opinions yet you see the “whole picture” (as in: the major of posters sharing like ideas) as differing greatly with how you feel - should you just leave it alone? Or continue to keep posting the same thing over and over?
Well, I'd say it really depends. I find myself in that place sometimes IRL when everyone around me is Christian. I'm agnostic but I'm also a very spiritual and moral person. It seems hard for some people to understand that. (Now I'm not talking about here, everyone is great about that stuff here! I'm just using this as an example.) So I just try to respect other people's beliefs as I would like them to respect mine, even if that doesn't happen. And as much as I would like to share my viewpoint and reasoning when certain conversations come up, I know it will do no good if the people involved aren't open to exploring other possibilities. There are times when you just have to stay quiet in order to keep the peace. I mean, what good would it do to try to talk to someone whose mind is closed on the matter. Wouldn't it be better to wait until you can talk to someone who is actually interested in discussing different possiblilies?
That's my two cents anyway. Take it for what its worth.
-T
P.S. I have no idea which board you're referring to or what the subject matter is. I just want to make sure everyone knows that.
Posted by Dinah on June 18, 2006, at 12:40:57
In reply to Kinda Deep Question, posted by Glydin on June 18, 2006, at 11:14:13
I've been here since 2001, just about five years now. The boards do go through different cycles. Sometimes I feel as if I've found my home and delightful new friends, sometimes it seems like normal, and sometimes I feel like a three headed fish, because what's being discussed at that time doesn't mesh well with my life experiences. Sometimes I'm even angry. I'm not saying anything about posters or even about themes. Just about how they fit *me* at that moment.
But one thing for sure is that the cycles will change again, and the dominant themes will change, and you'll feel more at home, or less at home.
And that's ok, in the larger sense. Or at least it is with me.
So what I do when I feel like you is check in, look at threads, chime in when I feel comfortable, and start a thread or two that interest me if I'm in the mood. Because really a board is what the users make of it. And there might be many people who feel as you do, but aren't posting because they aren't comfortable with the majority of the posts. But by posting, you tip the balance a bit, and if others join in, it tips a bit more, until maybe it's at a balance you are comfortable with.
We had a similar discussion on Psychology lately about CBT and other non-transference based therapies.
All assuming of course, that everything is within Dr. Bob's guidelines. If it's Dr. Bob who's the problem, you probably don't have a lot of ability to effect change yourself. :)
I have no idea what board you're talking about so I really don't know.
Posted by Phillipa on June 18, 2006, at 13:12:40
In reply to Kinda Deep Question, posted by Glydin on June 18, 2006, at 11:14:13
Glydin it's not strange the people have changed and so have the meds. Too may cocktails of meds. I'm just assuming you're referring to that board. It's addictive as that is why I'm on social too. Waiting for the day when I don't need it. Horray for Glydin!!!!Love Phillipa
Posted by corafree on June 18, 2006, at 14:41:29
In reply to Re: Kinda Deep Question » Glydin, posted by Phillipa on June 18, 2006, at 13:12:40
I apologize ahead of time Glydin, because I think this post is selfishly about my confusion. I'm a bit lost here.
I'm confused about *triggers*. Whether posting positive or negative feelings ... social is the correct board, I believe. Or ... should it be psychology? Remember the trigger issue I created :{. Should I have posted that on psychology instead of social?
I had been thinking psychology was the meds board until right now. I just went to the main page and see that the meds board is actually psycho-babble! But there are discussions re: meds on psychology!? (Why isn't it called medication or pharmacology?)
I thought the name of the site was psycho-babble :O ... yikes! (I used to read the rules ... really.)
I'm confused re: meds right now and feeling like there's a fork in my road re: cocktails v. monotherapy.
I've recently physically moved, new P, new T, lonely as shi*, and I've really 'lost myself' in the shuffle, so really need to lean on this site.
I've been drawn to social because it's distracting me from all this confusion.
cf
Posted by Glydin on June 18, 2006, at 20:32:42
In reply to Kinda Deep Question, posted by Glydin on June 18, 2006, at 11:14:13
I really appreciate all your input.
You are good folks!!I’ve been taking some time thinking, really DEEP thinking, about my thoughts about the board I’m speaking of. I don’t want to get too specific because it’s not specific, but the overall “feel”, trend, and ethical differences I have with the board that’s causing this reaction. It’s been building for a while and it’s actually good to post about it. Despite my thoughts on the “global“ philosophy I‘m picking up, there are a lot of good qualities to that board.
Most of the change in me. A good change but I feel sad that an area of comfort (and just MAYBE, habit) is no longer there, but I’m at the point my personal convictions are very important to me and I feel can’t be compromised and for some reason, participating feels like something I shouldn't do now as I've posted about my differing opinions in the past. I am respectful that others are entitled to their opinions. I really am....
This feels an awful lot like a relationship that has soured, no fault on either side, but difficult to let go of.
Ah, it will all be alright!!
Posted by Daisym on June 18, 2006, at 21:02:08
In reply to Thank you all, posted by Glydin on June 18, 2006, at 20:32:42
I've been feeling the same for awhile as well. My conclusion, for myself, was that I still need/want a lot of support or discussion about an issue that isn't of interest to others anymore. So the issue sort of gets played with or I get pats on the head...which is fine...but I've lost the ability to share the depth of my pain there. So I share it elsewhere, which is probably more appropriate anyway.
The other thing I've definitely noticed is that when posters shift and we get a different age group, things feel dramatically different.
But I've been mourning a bit too. I cycle through feeling unwanted, left out, uninspired, not helpful, selfish and nostalgic. And then I post a ton, try to get back in the swing and start over. I miss my babble friends and then realize it is me who isn't there.
*sigh* I agree, just like IRL sometimes. I hope you feel better about your board soon.
Daisy
Posted by Phillipa on June 18, 2006, at 21:21:44
In reply to Re: Thank you all » Glydin, posted by Daisym on June 18, 2006, at 21:02:08
Glydin it will all work out in the end. Love Phillipa
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2006, at 2:01:31
In reply to Thank you all, posted by Glydin on June 18, 2006, at 20:32:42
Posts like this really make me realize that I need to work on my excess curiosity. :)
Posted by Glydin on June 19, 2006, at 6:32:37
In reply to Re: Thank you all » Glydin, posted by Dinah on June 19, 2006, at 2:01:31
> Posts like this really make me realize that I need to work on my excess curiosity. :)
~~~ Ya gave me a chuckle this morning - good thing for a Monday morning.I find that’s a thought for me when reading sometimes, the internal line of: “What the ______ ( inserting expletive or more dainty word, depending on my day’s tone) is he/she talking about????”
It was just my general musings complete with lament-ish sighing. Yesterday I was a deep thinker and today, not so much. I kinda like that.
Posted by Dinah on June 19, 2006, at 23:36:41
In reply to To: » Dinah, posted by Glydin on June 19, 2006, at 6:32:37
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