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Posted by jammerlich on April 23, 2006, at 22:01:37
Well, I want one other than the one I have. God gave me a rotten one, if you ask me. And it feels like there is a hole inside of me that will never be filled unless I can have something like a "normal" (whatever that means) sort of mother/daughter relationship. It hurts an awful lot. And it feels really, really lonely. Remember the Dr. Suess book where the little - bird, was it(??) - walked around asking everyone and everything, "Are you my mother?" I'm sort of lost like that.
My sweet teacher/friend is becoming something like a mother. She tells me I'm like the daughter she never had. I don't know if she really means it, but it sure is nice to hear. She's out of town right now and I miss her so much. I keep telling myself she'll be back Tuesday night, but it doesn't help. I helped her book her ticket, but the selfish part of me hated doing it. Her husband joked that he hoped it was a one-way ticket. I wanted to hit him. I ache for her; I have for 20 years, ever since she was my teacher. She is special.
I'd hoped writing this would help with the hurt; but so far, not so much. Any suggestions on how to get through the next couple of days?
And is it possible to fill this "mother hole?"
Posted by MidnightBlue on April 23, 2006, at 23:00:47
In reply to I want a mom, posted by jammerlich on April 23, 2006, at 22:01:37
I think you are doing a real good job! I used to love reading that book to my kids. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with picking out a new "mom" if you need or want one. And it sounds like this teacher really likes having you for a daughter.
ENJOY it!
Posted by ClearSkies on April 23, 2006, at 23:03:32
In reply to I want a mom, posted by jammerlich on April 23, 2006, at 22:01:37
I think there are many of us who feel the same way. I've been told that there are lots of moms out there for us - that come into our lives as friends, coworkers, casual acquaintances - who fill that role at various times of our life.
It hurts to need a mom and not have the mom we have be able to be that mom. If that makes sense.
Posted by Phillipa on April 24, 2006, at 21:19:21
In reply to Re: I want a mom » jammerlich, posted by ClearSkies on April 23, 2006, at 23:03:32
Clealy My own Mother died when I was l7 yrs old and no one has ever been a Mother to me. Wanna be my Mother? Love Phillipa
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