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Posted by Susan47 on March 2, 2005, at 17:21:24
In reply to Well poo, posted by gardenergirl on March 2, 2005, at 16:19:48
I know, that's the way it is sometimes, we're not the perfect fit for somebody BUT good for you asking for feedback, I think that's something worthwhile for me to look into as well, on my last interview. I should phone and ask what's happening, but I'm scared to, I'll do it tomorrow. I'm afraid of way too much, it immobilizes me all the time. Good for you, GG.
Posted by partlycloudy on March 2, 2005, at 19:09:28
In reply to Well poo, posted by gardenergirl on March 2, 2005, at 16:19:48
hmmm... shame you can't give this place as a reference. You've helped me hugely, gg.
i find interviewing a strange experience... it can be so intimidating and yet, it's also your chance to interview your potential employer. They get a little cagey when you turn it around, you know?
hugs and lots more to you,
pc
Posted by All Done on March 2, 2005, at 19:55:26
In reply to Well poo, posted by gardenergirl on March 2, 2005, at 16:19:48
That just plain stinks, gg :(. I'm sorry you didn't get it.
I hope something even better comes up instead. I know it's probably hard to believe right now, but maybe everything happens for a reason, ya know? You'll find somewhere to work that will end up being a better fit for them and you.
Good luck in your search, (((((gg))))).
Take care,
LaurieP.S. I think this situation calls for some ice cream. Falls?
Posted by alexandra_k on March 2, 2005, at 20:21:53
In reply to Well poo, posted by gardenergirl on March 2, 2005, at 16:19:48
((((gg)))
I'm sorry hon :-(
But I reckon something better will turn up for you...
I understand how hard it is not to take that sort of thing personally..
Hang in there.
We still think you are fab.
They obviously didn't fully appreciate what and who they were missing out on.
Posted by fallsfall on March 2, 2005, at 20:33:23
In reply to Re: Well poo, posted by All Done on March 2, 2005, at 19:55:26
I'll bring the ice cream!
I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, GG. I am impressed that you asked why you didn't get the job.
Posted by TamaraJ on March 2, 2005, at 20:44:11
In reply to Well poo, posted by gardenergirl on March 2, 2005, at 16:19:48
(((Gardenergirl)))
Double Poo! I am so sorry things did not work out. Their loss as far as I'm concerned. I am glad, however, that you are maintaining a positive attitude and using this as a learning experience.
Take care,
Tamara
Posted by Gabbi-x-2 on March 2, 2005, at 21:12:24
In reply to Re: Well poo » All Done, posted by fallsfall on March 2, 2005, at 20:33:23
All Right! Tell me who they are. How could they not just see how perfect you are.. I'll I'll..
No I suppose that wouldn't be wise. I'm sorry G.G. Lots of good things will happen for you though. Really. I'm good at figuring those things out.
Posted by anastasia56 on March 2, 2005, at 22:14:21
In reply to Re: Well poo » fallsfall, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on March 2, 2005, at 21:12:24
everything happens for a reason. this just means there is something else you need to be available for.
ana
Posted by daisym on March 3, 2005, at 0:00:19
In reply to Re: Well poo, posted by anastasia56 on March 2, 2005, at 22:14:21
:( I'm sorry GG. I know you worked hard to prepare for this.
I'm sure you will find something. I'd love to have you up here. We are in desperate need of a mental health professional. But you'd have to change your speciality...little ones instead of older ones.
You are very special. Someone will see that soon.
(((GG)))
Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 0:58:43
In reply to Re: Well poo, posted by daisym on March 3, 2005, at 0:00:19
You all have been so kind and are saying exactly what I need to hear. Why is it when someone says something kind is when I am most likely to cry?
I was feeling pretty good all day today, proud of myself for how I was "handling" this. Heck,for some reason, I didn't even cry in therapy today even though we were continuing down the same path we've been on. That may be a first.
So I read all these wonderful posts, and now I'm bawling. Hmmmm, what's up? Is this what unconditional love is supposed to be like? You fall flat on something, and your friends are right there to catch you?
I'm profoundly moved. I thank you all.
Now let's add that place to the TP list, eh? :)
gg
Posted by 10derHeart on March 3, 2005, at 1:49:26
In reply to Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying?, posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 0:58:43
> Why is it when someone says something kind is when I am most likely to cry?
This is me all the time. I'd say the kinder and more caring it is, the more I know I'll break down if I keep listening and allowing it in. I think it's because...when we KNOW, in our heart of hearts, the words of compassion and caring are so genuine, so just right, they touch us in a deep place, just below where the painful dissapointment is trying to stay hidden, and help release it. It's rather abrupt, though. And the release, though needed, hurts, too, in a different way. Does that make some sense...if an intuitive, emotional explanation can make *sense?*Alternately, I picture my daughter many years back, maybe around 18 months-age 2, upset but holding back, scared by something, scanning the room, then finding me. She'd run into my arms, to safety and love and comfort, and THEN burst into tears.
There's a bit (or a LOT, in my case) of that child still inside us. Perhaps without knowing it, when you posted to let us know whathad happened, you were *scanning the room.*
And GG, you are awesome. This apparently wasn't the right path. When you find it, and look back and realize how the pieces of this present diappointment fit, that will be a beautiful day. And it will come. But for now, this does suck. So I'm glad you can be both brave AND let yourself cry, too. Sounds awfully healthy to me ((gg)) :-) - 10der
Posted by alexandra_k on March 3, 2005, at 3:21:33
In reply to Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying?, posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 0:58:43
((((gg)))) it is okay to cry hon, I know (some of) how important this was to you. You are being a good role model of how to deal with this for when I don't get in to the states :-S
Thats a funny little face. Not sure what it means...
Not that there is pressure on you not to get pissed off at some point or other about it all or anything...
I don't know what I am saying.
It is hard to know what to say at times.
Posted by alexandra_k on March 3, 2005, at 3:22:25
In reply to Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying?, posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 0:58:43
Everything seems worse at 2 in the morning.
Well, things seem worse for me when I am tired.
I cry more readily too.
Posted by alexandra_k on March 3, 2005, at 3:47:36
In reply to Re: PS » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on March 3, 2005, at 3:22:25
Okay, so maybe this is a really stupid idea... but... how about being an internet therapist?? I don't know if internet therapists do internet supervision or what, I dunno...
Could be a useful thing to have experience in with respect to building up a private practice once you graduate...
Just a (probably crazy) thought.
Posted by fallsfall on March 3, 2005, at 8:08:50
In reply to Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying?, posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 0:58:43
These things definately hit us differently at 2AM. It is OK to cry. You wanted something, you worked for it, you thought it was going OK, and you are disappointed. Disappointment can make you cry. That's OK.
I'm less disappointed because it sounded like more paperwork and less client interaction. And I think you are so good with the clients, I hated to think of you talking to papers all the time. But it would pay money. And money is a very good thing.
I'll ask my therapist if he wants an intern. Might not be so good for your marriage to be here instead of there, but I would like it. I would even offer my yard up to your gardening talents (heaven knows it could use some talent...) Maybe Daisy will ask hers, too!
Job hunting is a process. Not every job will be a fit. But you are awesome enough so that you will find many jobs that are good fits. Keep looking.
Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 8:55:32
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on March 3, 2005, at 8:08:50
Thanks falls. You always know what to say. I really was kidding about the intern thing, though. But thanks for thinking of it. :)
gg
Posted by 10derHeart on March 3, 2005, at 13:10:25
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » gardenergirl, posted by 10derHeart on March 3, 2005, at 1:49:26
....apparently my perfectionist tendencies are not too strong in the wee hours. I managed to spell "disappointment" wrong - twice - in two different "wrong ways" in my post!
Oh my. Or better, oh, well ;-)
Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 14:48:51
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » gardenergirl, posted by 10derHeart on March 3, 2005, at 1:49:26
>I think it's because...when we KNOW, in our heart of hearts, the words of compassion and caring are so genuine, so just right, they touch us in a deep place, just below where the painful dissapointment is trying to stay hidden, and help release it. It's rather abrupt, though. And the release, though needed, hurts, too, in a different way. Does that make some sense...if an intuitive, emotional explanation can make *sense?*
Oh, this makes a lot of sense. Thanks. I think that's exactly it.
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Your post was very comforting. Thank you.
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Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 14:52:27
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on March 3, 2005, at 3:21:33
> ((((gg)))) it is okay to cry hon, I know (some of) how important this was to you. You are being a good role model of how to deal with this for when I don't get in to the states :-S
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> Thats a funny little face. Not sure what it means...Well, I certainly hope you only have to learn this vicariously and that you will get into the states. And the sooner the better. :)
That is a funny face. It reminds me of one my husband makes that is hysterical. I can't believe how much he can twist his face up. :)
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> It is hard to know what to say at times.It is hard. But just that you are thinking of me and know something about my disappointment is spot on.
And about internet therapy. I would have to have supervision, still, until I am licensed. My master's does not allow for independent practice like a licensed counselor or social worker's does. So I'm stuck in this game until I play it all out. But the game is still moving forward, even if I don't like the results of each turn.
Thanks for your support. I know you've got a lot going on, too.
gg
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Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 14:54:51
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » gardenergirl, posted by fallsfall on March 3, 2005, at 8:08:50
Yeah, this would have had absolutely no clinical time. I am starting to realize that as much as I like policy stuff, I HAVE to have my clinical time. And on the plus side, I have begun to talk with someone at school about trying to find something in trauma work or something similar. So maybe I didn't get this so that I can do what I really want anyway.
gg
Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 14:55:30
In reply to Re: Oops, can't spell so..., posted by 10derHeart on March 3, 2005, at 13:10:25
Posted by alexandra_k on March 3, 2005, at 15:02:37
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 14:52:27
> It is hard. But just that you are thinking of me and know something about my disappointment is spot on.
Yeah, that helps me too :-)
> And about internet therapy. I would have to have supervision, still, until I am licensed.
Yes. That was my thought. That you could find someone to supervise you to do that. I am sure that there would be a lot to learn about it. How to adapt IRL practices to a different medium, different forms of online therapy, security measures, etc etc. I thought you might be able to find someone to supervise you online the way people normally find someone to supervise them IRL.
>My master's does not allow for independent practice like a licensed counselor or social worker's does.
> Sure, you need to complete before you can do the independent practice thingie, I get you. But if you learned how to do the online therapy thing then that is something you could set up the day after you get your lisence! Could start as a 'spare time' thing then maybe become a 'part time' thing maybe get to be a 'full time' thing. Who knows...
I don't know. Just a thought.
(PS you would always be gg to us that wouldn't change any of that).
Posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 15:08:13
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on March 3, 2005, at 15:02:37
Hmmmmm, something to think about. Perhaps I should consult with Miss Kali.
gg
Posted by 10derHeart on March 3, 2005, at 16:10:48
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » 10derHeart, posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 14:48:51
Posted by annierose on March 4, 2005, at 14:55:56
In reply to Re: Shoot, it's almost 2 a.m. NOW I'm crying? » alexandra_k, posted by gardenergirl on March 3, 2005, at 15:08:13
GG-
I'm late to this thread (don't read Social much) but sorry about the job. If it's any consolation, I often find when something I was hoping for (job, house, new hire, etc) doesn't pan out, a few months down the road, I'm thankful, because I found a better alterative. And I agree with everyone else, things always seem worse at 2 a.m. I hope you find a job with more client interaction, you're extremely supportive. Good Luck on the dreaded job search.
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