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Posted by saw on October 7, 2004, at 3:11:16
I almost broke down in front of my husband last night. I told him how much my weight gain is torturing me and that I was at the end of my tether. Well, I guess he knows that since he's suffering through my torture. He is agreeing that I should change meds and I am so relieved that he will come with me to the doc.
I also told him that I was feeling afraid and hurt that he doesn't touch me in the way that he used to. He said that it is not because he is feeling less attracted to me but his way of trying to make me less uncomfortable since I always cover up and tend to pull away. I didn't even realise I was pulling away from him. I'm aware that I cover my stomach a lot and if he puts his hand on my stomach I take it off. Then I asked him if he is embarrassed of me. Shame, all the questions we're not supposed to ask! (Like does my bum look big in this?) He handled it very maturely and supportively. Oh yes, and no, he is not embarrassed of me but says that my own embarrassment at myself is becoming evident in public by the way that I "hide" behind him or a big jacket etc.
I cried so much during all of this, the poor man.
Early this morning while still in bed, he put his hand on my stomach and I left it there. He just gently rubbed. I felt so much shame but hid it from him. He doesn't deserve my ugly body any more than I do.
Sabrina
Posted by partlycloudy on October 7, 2004, at 4:39:32
In reply to That whole weight issue, posted by saw on October 7, 2004, at 3:11:16
(((Sabrina))) my husband and I went through this same issue in the same way. At least now he understands how upsetting it is for you.
pc
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 8, 2004, at 8:18:04
In reply to That whole weight issue, posted by saw on October 7, 2004, at 3:11:16
I go through the same stuff. why is it so painful? My self hatred is so ugly and now I broke my ankle and can't exercise. I used to workout everyday. We have an eliptical that is a leg and ankle machine. Boo.
I was already loosing the battle of the bulge. Now I'm slidding into last place and the pact is ever receeding in the dust ahead of me.
So, I too am discouraged. I wish there were a magic pill but so far I haven't found it.
I'm glad you were able to have your mate intimate with you. I too suffer from imagining myself. I think it's called body dismorphia?Well I think I am thin....I wear a large. when I was thin I wore a size 5.
I still see myself at that size. Oh dear. mirrors are not so kind.
I would like to make peace with myself.
On top of the body thing I am aging....wow now that's discouraging. I guess I have no choice about the aging part.
So, let's keep talking about this.
Jai
Posted by jlynne on October 8, 2004, at 11:37:48
In reply to Re: That whole weight issue, posted by Jai Narayan on October 8, 2004, at 8:18:04
> > On top of the body thing I am aging....wow now that's discouraging. I guess I have no choice about the aging part.
>> Jaijai - if you think it is bad now, wait till you actually LOSE the weight and see what happens to the SKIN! omg that is not a pretty sight! LOL (speaking from my own experiences, that is)
. . . jlynne
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 8, 2004, at 13:07:43
In reply to Re: That whole weight issue » Jai Narayan, posted by jlynne on October 8, 2004, at 11:37:48
> > > On top of the body thing I am aging....wow now that's discouraging. I guess I have no choice about the aging part.
> >> Jai
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> jai - if you think it is bad now, wait till you actually LOSE the weight and see what happens to the SKIN! omg that is not a pretty sight! LOL (speaking from my own experiences, that is)
>
> . . . jlynne**oh really??? so I will smile at my chubby self in the mirror and count my blessings. so nice to hear from you..once again I had so much fun on open.
I went to open today and posted to myself for a few minutes...it get lonesome there is no one is around.
:)
Jai
Posted by jlynne on October 8, 2004, at 13:36:04
In reply to Re: That whole weight issue .....jlynne, posted by Jai Narayan on October 8, 2004, at 13:07:43
jai, iris2 is looking for someone to talk to right now . . . she posted on social today. I have to get ready for work right now, myself. Maybe you two can connect??
Good to hear from you again, too, sweetie.
. . . jlynne
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