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Posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 2:46:08
What an empty week... doing nothing at work, torturing myself over when to quit, tried to set up a social event this weekend but nobody's around, emailed some people and got those auto-replies people use when they're out.
Tonight I hate half a container of banana split ice cream and bought myself a big honking fake diamond cocktail ring on sale for $10. It's so sparkly.
Moral of story? Ice cream and CZs are a girl's best friends?
Just lonely and empty.
Posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 4:40:14
In reply to Ice Cream and Cheap Jewelry, posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 2:46:08
Posted by gabbix2 on July 18, 2003, at 13:17:49
In reply to Re: Oy! My lost youth... (nm), posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 4:40:14
Well hey, I've got a diamond ring you could buy cheap.... :(
Posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 14:47:31
In reply to Re: Oy! My lost youth..., posted by gabbix2 on July 18, 2003, at 13:17:49
I'm really into this notion of men making gifts of jewelry lately. I read this big picture book of Elizabeth Taylor and her jewelry collection. Man, that woman knew how to get good presents!
Then if the relationship doesn't work out, it's like a consolation prize. Thanks for Playing.
But Gabs... Ever think what if your guy finally re-surfaces and you've pawned his ring?
Posted by gabbix2 on July 18, 2003, at 15:01:11
In reply to Re: jewels, lovely jewels » gabbix2, posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 14:47:31
I did, thats why I pawned it and didn't exactly sell it. This way I can always say I lost it, and then get it back from the pawn shop. A pawn is just a loan, and they keep the ring as collateral. It will be a while before I sell it!
I don't want to wait too long though cause diamonds are a manipulated market and will probably go down in value now that more of them are being released for sale.I just can't imagine him showing up now though,
though, I can't imagine not hearing from him again either. This is one of the hardest things I've ever been through, my emotions just don't know what to do.
Posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 15:10:33
In reply to Re: jewels, lovely jewels, posted by gabbix2 on July 18, 2003, at 15:01:11
So right about the diamond market, I just read articles in the Atlantic Monthly all about the DeBeers cartel and how there are so many diamonds in the mines the price would drop to nothing if they'd stop controlling the output. Also... the whole notion of every couple needing a diamond engagement ring was their marketing campaign in the first place! They tried to get it going in other countries and some picked it up, some didn't. And the whole diamond eternity ring notion-- they came up with it to use a lot of small diamonds from mines in Russia-- those style rings have a bunch of tiny diamonds instead of one big one. What a manipulation.
The situation with the guy must be torturous. I hate not-knowing more than anything. I'd be driving myself crazy wondering what happened.
Posted by gabbix2 on July 18, 2003, at 15:18:18
In reply to Re: jewels, lovely jewels, posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 15:10:33
yeah, it is torturous, thanks for listening.
I mean absolutely gut wrenching, just no reprieve.
And its not like I have a life in this town, I'm here to go to school in Sept, and thats it. My days are spent alone.
If I had the money I'd fly down there I know the address of a friend of his. I've sent letters there I'm not sure if he's gotten them yet or not. Of course if I don't here from him I won't know whether he's ignoring the letters or if he just hasn't seen his friend.. I mean I'll *know* he got them but there will always be that doubt.
I'm trying to tell myself I've ended it to give myself some emotional stability, but I just can't do it. My days are just a haze of crying, shaking and Seroquel, its bloody miserable..
Posted by lostsailor on July 19, 2003, at 9:10:35
In reply to Re: jewels, lovely jewels » gabbix2, posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 14:47:31
>>I'm really into this notion of men making gifts of jewelry lately. I read this big picture book of Elizabeth Taylor and her jewelry collection. Man, that woman knew how to get good presents!<<
is this really our tabby talkin???~t
Posted by Dinah on July 19, 2003, at 10:17:09
In reply to Re: jewels, lovely jewels » Tabitha, posted by gabbix2 on July 18, 2003, at 15:18:18
Posted by gabbix2 on July 19, 2003, at 13:46:11
In reply to Re: (((Gabbi))) (nm), posted by Dinah on July 19, 2003, at 10:17:09
Posted by whiterabbit on July 20, 2003, at 12:24:59
In reply to Ice Cream and Cheap Jewelry, posted by Tabitha on July 18, 2003, at 2:46:08
We don't have a Walmart inside the city limits so I usually have to settle for Walgreens. I don't like malls or clothes shopping (thank heavens for J.Jill catalogs) but I can spend an hour or more inside this drugstore just looking at everything, it's very strange...I get in there and sort of go into a trance, just about. I'm sure I get the same look on my face as one of my friends, when she's playing the slot machines in the casino - she stares at the machine like she's hypnotized
and doesn't "snap out of it" until her tokens are gone.I can't pass up the makeup aisle no matter what. I have to look at all the new stuff on display in the center, and I allow myself to buy ONE makeup thing per shopping trip, so usually I check out a lot of the regular stuff - comparison shopping.
If I'm there to buy vitamins, I read labels on a bunch of the bottles. If I'm buying shampoo, I go through a lot of different hair products. I love stuff that smells good, so I smell the bath gels and lotions and powders, also the candles. At least I try to put everything back where it was so the Walgreens people don't hate me...
I don't come out of my trance until the cashier says, "That will be eighty-six dollars," and I go,
ohmyGod what all did I buy!! I get home, sit on the rug and start digging through the bag. Here's an ordinary shopping trip-Lipstick
Scented candle
Hair gel
A bottle of vitamins or diet pills
Real Simple magazine
Chocolate Velamints
Starbucks Mocha FrappaccinoAnd maybe something I actually need. Gosh no wonder I'm always broke.
-Gracie
Posted by gabbix2 on July 20, 2003, at 13:46:59
In reply to Re: Ice Cream and Cheap Jewelry-Walgreens, posted by whiterabbit on July 20, 2003, at 12:24:59
Grace thats kind of freaky, thats another thing
we have in common, I detest malls, but I have
a weird fixation with drugstores. I even have dreams about them (I'm sure you aren't that bad)
Is it an A.D.D. thing? I'm kidding. But really it kind of weirded me out when you said that.
I used to end up with buckets of things I'd never use and give them away. I've learned when I'm as poor as I am now I can't go in them at all :(
Posted by Tabitha on July 20, 2003, at 15:34:34
In reply to Re: jewels, lovely jewels, posted by lostsailor on July 19, 2003, at 9:10:35
why not, sailor? Must've made her feel like a princess/queen/most special girl in the world to get such lovely gifts.
Posted by Tabitha on July 20, 2003, at 15:40:22
In reply to Re: Ice Cream and Cheap Jewelry-Walgreens, posted by whiterabbit on July 20, 2003, at 12:24:59
They don't call it 'retail therapy' for nothing. My comfort store is Target. I drive to this one that's out of the urban area, more like small-town suburbia. I think it's recreating my childhood Friday night ritual. That was our family date night-- we'd all go for dinner (usually fast food or cafeteria style steakhouse) then Mom would grocery shop at this store that was connected to a Target (called Ayr-Way back then) and I'd browse for an hour or so and spend my allowance on treasures. Single records (88c is the price I recall), knick-knacks, costume jewelry, craft supplies, paperback books.
Now I look at cheap DVDs, books, jewelry, makeup, clothes, and outdoor decor. I'm pretty good at not buying much.
Posted by whiterabbit on July 22, 2003, at 20:13:47
In reply to Re: Ice Cream and Cheap Jewelry-Walgreens » whiterabbit, posted by gabbix2 on July 20, 2003, at 13:46:59
How strange is that?? The spending is maybe bipolar but the "zoning out" part was, I thought, just another of my odd little habits, maybe it IS an ADD thing. Anyway I've gotten better since I started reading the books by Paula Begoun - "Don't Go To The Cosmetics Counter Without Me"-
she cuts through all the hype and glossy advertisements and fancy words. She tells you what all those ingredients are in cosmetics, facial care and hair products, what they'll REALLY do for you, and her rating of the product's performance. You find out stuff like, L'Oreal and Lancome are owned by the same company and many of their products are the exact same formulation, the only difference being packaging and price. I don't think she's going to write any more books, but she still has an interesting newsletter and website at www.cosmeticscop.com -But it's still hard to stay away from the makeup displays and bath products, for sure. Also the vitamins and herbs and whatnot...still I can do the same thing at Borders or Barnes & Noble, I start going through books and before I know it, a couple of hours have passed by...I feel at home around books and coffee and you have to try pretty hard to not "fit in" with bookstore people, they're pretty diverse. I can go in there in my raggedy jeans and black Army jacket and even though I'm out in the "burbs" nobody looks at me twice, who cares what you wear as long as you don't stand really close if you smell bad.
Which I don't think I do...in the summer I love powder, baby powder and dusting powder and talcum powder...my STBX gripes about the powder I leave "everywhere" in the bathroom because if he brushes up next to the tub or something, it leaves powder on his dark uniform. So ever since he made the mistake of telling me that, I shake on powder with much abandon and glee after every shower.
Well now I'm just babbling...>-)
Gracie
Posted by noa on July 23, 2003, at 20:45:42
In reply to Re: Ice Cream and Cheap Jewelry-Walgreens » gabbix2, posted by whiterabbit on July 22, 2003, at 20:13:47
That sounds like a great book. I am sure that most of what goes into the cosmetics industry is hype! It is all about image.
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