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Posted by SandraDee on July 11, 2002, at 19:08:03
Not much better than my 3 yr old daughter coming and giving me butterfly kisses and saying "you're my best friend momma".
Well, except sleeping in on the weekends, maybe.
Posted by paxvox on July 11, 2002, at 21:20:00
In reply to Not much better than..., posted by SandraDee on July 11, 2002, at 19:08:03
I believe, it may well be, that such love is just that little bit that keeps many of us here.
Which brings me to this: Why do we not share love as freely as we do anger? Why do we delve it out as if it were some limited commodity, reserved for only the dearest and closest?
Have you never seen the glow in the eyes of an otherwise hopeless person when you have provided what to you may seem such a trivial nicety? An open door, a casual smile an empathetic tear?
How easy it is to tear down each other with calous, hateful words (that we might not even really mean) than to provide them with even marginal affirmation?
Cold hearts. Cold minds. Wasted lives.
"They say everything can be replaced, yet every distance is not near. So I remember every face of every man who put me here. I see my light come shining from the west unto the east. Any day now, any day now, I shall be released."
Dylan, 1967.
PAXstill waiting......
Posted by SandraDee on July 11, 2002, at 23:20:06
In reply to Re: Not much better than... » SandraDee, posted by paxvox on July 11, 2002, at 21:20:00
Warm hugs from my little girl... ? :) She'll tell you that you are her best friend too. She loves everyone, she hugs total strangers that don't want to be hugged even! hahaha But when she puts her tiny hands on my cheeks and looks in my eyes and says "I love you" I know she means it different than the strangers... I know it's unconditional. For that, I stick around and try harder everyday, and stick it out - whether medicated or not.
Posted by terra miller on July 11, 2002, at 23:50:33
In reply to Re: Not much better than... » SandraDee, posted by paxvox on July 11, 2002, at 21:20:00
... that you have to experience something to know how to do/give it. (this is a general principle applied to many issues, not just this one.) and i find it to be true. sometimes it's important to put yourself in a position to accept love/gratitude/help from others. it's important to drop everything and get on your knees and play with a kid on the floor even if you don't initially feel like it. but the more you let yourself be loved by other people, the more it becomes who you are. and after a while you don't know how it happened but you notice that you have become just like those kids.
terra
Posted by Fi on July 12, 2002, at 7:41:45
In reply to Re: Not much better than... » SandraDee, posted by paxvox on July 11, 2002, at 21:20:00
I dont know how much its a British rather than international thing, but so many people dont praise others here, or accept any praise when they are given it.
Lots of times people have said nice things about other people to me, and if I ask them if they have told this person direct, they say no and look really surprised at my question. I do try and share what I appreciate about others with them directly, on a completely genuine level. Just a short comment like 'thank you for taking time to help me with that problem; you're a great listener' or 'that shirt looks great!'.
They are often surprised I should say something, and some immediately get embarrassed and rush into 'yes,but...' and try and brush it off.
I do think its well worth giving praise/thanks, and learning to accept it and just say 'thanks' in reply!
Fi
Posted by SandraDee on July 12, 2002, at 9:56:29
In reply to Re: Not much better than..., posted by Fi on July 12, 2002, at 7:41:45
I do that too, Fi. I will tell a stranger in a grocery store that he/she has a nice smile. Or the teller at the bank has a nice hair-do. I know how I enjoy someone complimenting me (although I don't take it that well either), so I try to make others feel that - when I can.
And to Terra, I do get on my kids level and play with them and paint with them. It's much fun to see the world through the eyes of a 3 year old again. She's such a learning sponge.
Yesterday she came home from grammys (rare visit), and went in her bathroom (I had just cleaned it - blue stuff still in potty) and she screeched at me! "THANK YOU MOMMA!! YOU CLEANED MY POTTY!!!" How cute is that... and I know I have to suck it up now, because they become little ingrates (the most of them). hahahaha
Enjoying summer with my kids,
Me
Posted by susan C on July 12, 2002, at 11:04:32
In reply to I do that too... » Fi, posted by SandraDee on July 12, 2002, at 9:56:29
My son would have thought, "I procrastinated long enough Thank GAWD she Cleaned the bathroom, NOW she won't Make Me Do it, Yippie!"
Posted by fi on July 12, 2002, at 13:08:48
In reply to I do that too... » Fi, posted by SandraDee on July 12, 2002, at 9:56:29
Sounds fun with your kids! I didnt realise there was such a thing as cleaning till I was rather older than that, I suspect....!
Fi
Posted by paxvox on July 12, 2002, at 21:12:24
In reply to the little things in life, posted by susan C on July 12, 2002, at 11:04:32
Mighty Mouse......nice to see your name, Susan, if just a blip hither and yon. Pax vobiscum.
PAX
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