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Posted by emmanuel98 on January 14, 2010, at 21:21:44
I had my last regular therapy visit after five years of seeing my p-doc weekly for therapy. I will continue to see him infrequently for meds (like every three months!).
I am so sad, I have been crying all day. He's been like a father to me.
I gave him an African stone carving, a round carving with two abstract figures who seem to be dancing in a circle. I fond a quote from a psychiatry textbook that said therapists must enter a patient's "dance" and I wrote him a card quoting that and thanking him for dancing with me. Later he called me at home because he couldn't find the card and thought I may have taken it with me. Which was touching, that he would want to have the card.
I am so sad. I don't know if I can do this, though it was my idea to have a fixed end-date. I can't stop crying.
Posted by rnny on January 14, 2010, at 22:00:17
In reply to Very sad after last visit, posted by emmanuel98 on January 14, 2010, at 21:21:44
"I feel your pain" if that is any help. Of course you would be sad after a last visit like that. What made you want to end now?
Posted by emmanuel98 on January 14, 2010, at 22:09:59
In reply to Re: Very sad after last visit, posted by rnny on January 14, 2010, at 22:00:17
> "I feel your pain" if that is any help. Of course you would be sad after a last visit like that. What made you want to end now?
I feel that we're done. I've gotten a great deal out of therapy with him and it's really been a life-changing experience. Last year, I became severely depressed and got out of it because of drugs (parnate). Once I was stable, I didn't feel like there was anything to work on really. We were just checking in and going over the same ground. I love this man and felt I was only seeing him because I loved him and it was time to move on and not stay mired in all this transference love. He had said to me once that it was important to learn to say a meaningful goodbye, which I never learned because I left home when I was 14. I wanted to say a meaningful goodbye. But it's sadder than I thought it would be.
Posted by rnny on January 14, 2010, at 23:28:16
In reply to Re: Very sad after last visit, posted by emmanuel98 on January 14, 2010, at 22:09:59
He is very correct about learning how to say a meaningful goodbye. Goodbyes are part of life. Learning to do them well and with class is a tool that no amount of money can buy.
Posted by emmanuel98 on January 15, 2010, at 0:53:57
In reply to Re: Very sad after last visit, posted by rnny on January 14, 2010, at 23:28:16
> He is very correct about learning how to say a meaningful goodbye. Goodbyes are part of life. Learning to do them well and with class is a tool that no amount of money can buy.
I guess. I've never lost someone impostant to me. My parents died, but we weren't close. A friend moved to the middle east and that was hard, but he wasn't as important to me as my T is. Saying goodbye is incredibly painful.
Posted by rnny on January 23, 2010, at 0:24:53
In reply to Re: Very sad after last visit, posted by emmanuel98 on January 15, 2010, at 0:53:57
It is very painful for you because you are encountering grief. Grief is a very painful experience. I am sorry you lost your parents and your friend went away though. Like you, I had a much closer relationship with my T who has retired than my parents or siblings. I have longed for her. To look at her, feel her patting me on the back telling me I am doing good, her smile. I miss her and like you am still grief stricken we are no longer together.
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