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Posted by sunnydays on April 19, 2008, at 23:23:05
I don't know how to, and she's really upset tonight. She was there big time in session today and she didn't know how to describe what she was feeling and my T just couldn't understand well enough to help because I know I wasn't explaining it at all really. But now I've figured out why she was upset, and I emailed him (now I only have one more left for the week, but that's ok, this was important). But she's still upset and thinks she's not important to him anymore. I don't know how to soothe her. Any ideas?
sunnydays
Posted by Phillipa on April 20, 2008, at 11:53:50
In reply to comforting the little girl, posted by sunnydays on April 19, 2008, at 23:23:05
Sunnydays see you posted last night did you manage? Love Phillipa ps hope you're better.
Posted by raisinb on April 20, 2008, at 14:07:37
In reply to comforting the little girl, posted by sunnydays on April 19, 2008, at 23:23:05
Sunnydays, do you ever buy her things? On the suggestion of a former therapist, I once went to the store and let my inner child pick out what she wanted. She wanted mint chocolate chip ice cream and a stuffed pink pig, and it was kind of a powerful, bittersweet experience buying them for her.
Posted by Poet on April 20, 2008, at 19:32:38
In reply to comforting the little girl, posted by sunnydays on April 19, 2008, at 23:23:05
Hi Sunnydays,
Since I've been coloring lately and find it soothing, can she draw a picture showing how she feels? You wouldn't have to show it to your T unless you both feel comfortable about it.
My inner child has a fairy wand, maybe your litle girl would like one to wave away the pain.
Poet
Posted by sunnydays on April 20, 2008, at 20:50:38
In reply to comforting the little girl, posted by sunnydays on April 19, 2008, at 23:23:05
Thanks for the ideas everyone. I need to talk with my t more about this because she's just so sad and there are so many memories and I don't like it. My T had suggested that perhaps the weather change was triggering me, and I definitely think that's part of it, as all the spring/summer memories are coming back in force. I'm just having a rough time, but I'll be fine. I always am.
sunnydays
Posted by Dinah on April 21, 2008, at 9:29:13
In reply to Re: comforting the little girl, posted by sunnydays on April 20, 2008, at 20:50:38
I don't know if this will help you, but I find it helpful to project the most positive and empathetic pictures I can into my mind with as much force as I can muster. Words don't help much. But firmly presented memories and images of my therapist seem to help more.
Posted by sunnydays on April 21, 2008, at 10:28:19
In reply to Re: comforting the little girl » sunnydays, posted by Dinah on April 21, 2008, at 9:29:13
Yes, when I can do that, that does help. Thanks for reminding me to try that! I figured out a lot of why she's so sad, and I'll talk about it with my therapist the next time I see him. Part of the sadness is just a lot of memories getting triggered right now, and it's hard to avoid the triggers because they seem to be everywhere right now, even in the smell of the air or the quality of the light... Oh well. I am managing, and even though the weather is triggering, it's also nice to be able to read outside and get a change of scenery.
sunnydays
Posted by Happyflower on April 21, 2008, at 20:18:55
In reply to comforting the little girl, posted by sunnydays on April 19, 2008, at 23:23:05
Hi Sunnydays,
I really don't know, if you find out can you let me know? I don't know how to soothe the little girl inside of me, I was never soothed so how could I learn? ((((sunnydays))))))
Posted by sunnydays on April 21, 2008, at 21:19:50
In reply to Re: comforting the little girl, posted by Happyflower on April 21, 2008, at 20:18:55
I have found that having an actual conversation with the little girl does help if I can find enough of the adult part in me to talk to her. But that's all I've found so far...
sunnydays
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