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Posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:10:54
What significance does it have when a T asks you if you're "in your head a lot"? He asked this, and then all week I kept thinking, why would he ask that, and what's the significance?
Also, B2 brought up the sexual history. Is that always done? Why would it be done, and at what juncture? I'm not sure if I can even remember my sexual history! I guess I don't have too much history, well not a very exciting history anyway.
fw
Posted by happyflower on August 31, 2005, at 15:51:54
In reply to In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:10:54
My T never did a sexual history (not that there would be much of one, lol) Heck there isn't much of a present either. So I guess it would take a whole 2 minutes to talk about my history.
Maybe your T want to know how much you are thinking about your stuff ? Maybe he is wondering if it running your life ? Who knows? Maybe you can ask him about it? (((((Jazzy)))
Posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 15:54:48
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by happyflower on August 31, 2005, at 15:51:54
Thanks happy,
I guess you're right, maybe it's that obsessive thinking thing. I'll ask him since I've been obsessing about it! LOL
fw
Posted by Annierose on August 31, 2005, at 16:02:18
In reply to In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:10:54
My T never did or asked about a sexual history. I brought the subject up myself and found she was very helpful and comfortable with the subject matter despite my shame.
Posted by alexandra_k on August 31, 2005, at 16:57:42
In reply to In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:10:54
> What significance does it have when a T asks you if you're "in your head a lot"?
I think it means going round in head circles / ruminating.
Posted by Damos on August 31, 2005, at 17:59:16
In reply to In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:10:54
Hey fairywings :-)
When I got my DX both my GP and the p-doc I spoke to said "You live pretty much inside your head don't you?" And I knew exactly what they meant, and they were/are so right. Getting better though.
Wish I could explain it better but it's like every conversation, interaction, everything in my life takes place in my head long before it happens IRL (if it ever even does) and can be replayed for a long time afterward with no-one else having the slightest ideas that there's all this stuff happening in there. Sometimes even while stuff is happening IRL it's also happening concurrently in my head with different scenarios being played out. Any wonder most people have no clue what's going on for me at particular time, and more than half the time eventhough I'm there IRL what I'm really focused on is happening in my head.
Sorry to ramble on, hope that helps a little.
Posted by sleepygirl on August 31, 2005, at 22:28:08
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by Damos on August 31, 2005, at 17:59:16
Yes! excellent description- I live so much in my head - I create my whole world in there. Everything is played out there, and it can sometimes make me "removed" from the rest of the world.
Posted by fairywings on September 1, 2005, at 6:40:54
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by Damos on August 31, 2005, at 17:59:16
So what's the dx damos and sleepygirl? inside my head sometimes it feels like a trainwreck with trains coming from all directions crashing at one central point - those are my thoughts - I know I have to think about something, but it's just too much, too overwhelming. Or like a messy closet, I open the door and everything comes crashing down. On the other hand, when it's not something I have to think about I do have a very active life in my head, fantasy, and playing out senerios - esp when I'm mad at someone and didn't tell them, or when I've been in a situation where I'm anxious. I'm ADD, but i'm probably other stuff too, i know i have an anxiety dx too.
fw
Posted by B2chica on September 1, 2005, at 10:36:36
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by Damos on August 31, 2005, at 17:59:16
good explanation.
> Hey fairywings :-)
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> When I got my DX both my GP and the p-doc I spoke to said "You live pretty much inside your head don't you?" And I knew exactly what they meant, and they were/are so right. Getting better though.
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> Wish I could explain it better but it's like every conversation, interaction, everything in my life takes place in my head long before it happens IRL (if it ever even does) and can be replayed for a long time afterward with no-one else having the slightest ideas that there's all this stuff happening in there. Sometimes even while stuff is happening IRL it's also happening concurrently in my head with different scenarios being played out. Any wonder most people have no clue what's going on for me at particular time, and more than half the time eventhough I'm there IRL what I'm really focused on is happening in my head.
>
> Sorry to ramble on, hope that helps a little.
Posted by B2chica on September 1, 2005, at 10:40:48
In reply to In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:10:54
actually when i was 'interviewing' T's there was only one that actually wanted sexual history, she gave me a like 10 pages of questions to fill out...never went back. i think it's such a sensitive subject i don't think it should be jumped into. especially for people like me who were to the point they finally need to deal with some sexual issues but never have before. i needed gentle guidance not abrupt flat out...so were you ever sexually abused... in fact i didn't even know for sure if what happened to me was SA...for so many reasons (typical, blamed self, encouraged it etc, etc.) but if bluntly asked i will always and forever say NOPE, not me.
btw, caught your note above...must have been crushed but either way it's an important topic.
b2c.> Also, B2 brought up the sexual history. Is that always done? Why would it be done, and at what juncture? I'm not sure if I can even remember my sexual history! I guess I don't have too much history, well not a very exciting history anyway.
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> fw
Posted by fairywings on September 1, 2005, at 10:55:01
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by B2chica on September 1, 2005, at 10:40:48
What is it with these forms? I got one that was 8 pgs long, I kept saying, " i know i've filled this out" i got 4 pages into it and stopped. LOL geeze!
fw
Posted by Emily Elizabeth on September 1, 2005, at 14:48:37
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by B2chica on September 1, 2005, at 10:40:48
That is really interesting. I was once reading a "how to be a good therapist" type book and they suggested that a way to be sensitive to "women's issues" type things was to directly ask abt history of sexual abuse (and other abuse) at the start of treatment. Their reasoning was that it is so hard to bring up, but can effect so much. If the T brings it up, then it is safer for the client to talk about it. I don't think I necessarily agree with that though. I wonder if there is some middle ground, like maybe asking if there is any sort of abuse in their past that they feel it would be helpful for the T to know about at this time. To make it clear that it is the client's choice (and no one else's) if they want to talk about it. It is okay to talk about it, but it is also okay to wait. I don't know. I'm just thinking out loud.
My T has never asked about any sexual issues (abuse or otherwise). I think we are both embarassed about those sorts of things. Or maybe I'm just projecting. LOL!!
Best,
EE> actually when i was 'interviewing' T's there was only one that actually wanted sexual history, she gave me a like 10 pages of questions to fill out...never went back. i think it's such a sensitive subject i don't think it should be jumped into. especially for people like me who were to the point they finally need to deal with some sexual issues but never have before. i needed gentle guidance not abrupt flat out...so were you ever sexually abused... in fact i didn't even know for sure if what happened to me was SA...for so many reasons (typical, blamed self, encouraged it etc, etc.) but if bluntly asked i will always and forever say NOPE, not me.
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> btw, caught your note above...must have been crushed but either way it's an important topic.
> b2c.
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> > Also, B2 brought up the sexual history. Is that always done? Why would it be done, and at what juncture? I'm not sure if I can even remember my sexual history! I guess I don't have too much history, well not a very exciting history anyway.
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Posted by terrics on September 3, 2005, at 12:27:54
In reply to In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:10:54
Hi FW, What a great intake question. The one about being in your head. The sexual one I'm not too sure about. terrics
Posted by fairywings on September 3, 2005, at 21:19:39
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by terrics on September 3, 2005, at 12:27:54
> Hi FW, What a great intake question. The one about being in your head. The sexual one I'm not too sure about. terrics
Hi Terrics,
Just wish I knew what it meant! ; )
fw
Posted by terrics on September 4, 2005, at 7:38:46
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by fairywings on September 3, 2005, at 21:19:39
> > Hi FW, What a great intake question. The one about being in your head. The sexual one I'm not too sure about. terrics
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> Hi Terrics,
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> Just wish I knew what it meant! ; )
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> fw
> Hi, I guess we all know what a sexual history is??? What kind of question is that on intake. I think the in you head part means you ruminate alot, you wonder alot, you think alot, but you do not participate in life alot??? terrics
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Posted by fairywings on September 4, 2005, at 12:47:20
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by terrics on September 4, 2005, at 7:38:46
I think the in you head part means you ruminate alot, you wonder alot, you think alot, but you do not participate in life alot??? terrics
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Yep, I worry all the time about everything, and have conversations with ppl that haven't occured with me on the losing end. I hate that! LOL
fw
Posted by Damos on September 5, 2005, at 17:01:16
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » Damos, posted by fairywings on September 1, 2005, at 6:40:54
Hey fairwings :-)
I don't honestly know what to tell you. But I recognise the train wreck analogy. Can't imagine the ADD helps with the thought problems. I do find that meditation really helps me slow down the 'thinking express' and just make my head a little quieter during those times when a zillion things are flying around in all directions just waiting to crash into each other. I also find that an active form works better at those times than a passive form. For some reason the inclusion of movement seems to help. The main types I use are walking meditation and various types of Tai Chi and or yoga. They also help you sleep.
My biggest problem with being 'in my head' is that I just don't engage IRL because it's all been said and done in every possible permutation and combination in my head and I always lose so I just withdraw because I know the outcome anyway. It's no way to live.
Posted by fairywings on September 5, 2005, at 21:16:50
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by Damos on September 5, 2005, at 17:01:16
Hi Damos,
Thanks, I have also tried meditation, and the brain entrainment CDs. I know what you mean about living out all the scenarios in your head, I do that too.
fw
Posted by terrics on September 6, 2005, at 7:22:56
In reply to In your head And taking a sexual history, posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:10:54
Hi again, Was your T. specifically talking about ADD when he said 'in your head'? terrics
Posted by fairywings on September 6, 2005, at 9:21:25
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by terrics on September 6, 2005, at 7:22:56
He didn't say, I think, now that I've talked to him more, he just thinks I worry too much.
fw
Posted by terrics on September 6, 2005, at 12:26:41
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » terrics, posted by fairywings on September 6, 2005, at 9:21:25
Hi, I just found this on a site when I was looking for something else.
Live in the head; try to theorize, figure things out intellectually
terrics
Posted by fairywings on September 6, 2005, at 19:08:54
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by terrics on September 6, 2005, at 12:26:41
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> Live in the head; try to theorize, figure things out intellectually
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> terricsinteresting, do you have the site?
fw
Posted by terrics on September 8, 2005, at 9:42:30
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » terrics, posted by fairywings on September 6, 2005, at 19:08:54
Sorry FW, I went back and can't find the site.
Terrics
Posted by fairywings on September 8, 2005, at 10:22:45
In reply to Re: In your head And taking a sexual history » fairywings, posted by terrics on September 8, 2005, at 9:42:30
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