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Posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 0:17:33
Why is it that i go out of my way if i feel i can offer insight on a post,i dont believe in getting involved in one inless i can either contribute or learn from it.
Why does it seem that a good amount oy questions i ask go unanswered,its pretty frustrating.
Posted by Sarah T. on December 18, 2005, at 0:48:11
In reply to Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 0:17:33
Hi Willyee,
I know what you mean, but try not to take it personally. Often, I feel bad because I've gone out of my way to help someone. Sometimes I spend a lot of my time responding to someone and they don't even acknowledge my post with a simple "Thank you." My first thought is, "Hey, what about all those Civility rules? Isn't saying "thank you" the civil thing to do?" Then, after a while, I try to keep in mind that although I am not feeling well a lot of the time, there are others here who are in more distress than I am.
Sometimes when people don't respond, it's a simple oversight. Sometimes a thread gets "lost" or archived, so it's not readily seen if you're scanning the page quickly. Or maybe others don't know the answer. Sometimes people don't respond because they don't know what to say. Sometimes people are just so self-involved with their own difficulties, they don't (or can't) give to others.
I know it sounds as if I'm forgiving uncivil behavior. Or perhaps it sounds as if I'm making excuses for others. I don't mean to do that. What I mean is, we have to try to see where other people are or "where they're coming from." People can only give what they're capable of giving. Also, it's a very hectic time of year. The holidays can be so stressful, trying to please everyone, spending money on a tight budget, and trying to feel cheerful when we're not.
Posted by Declan on December 18, 2005, at 1:55:35
In reply to Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 0:17:33
Hey Willy, I've forgotten. What questions? To do with augmenting Parnate?
It's all interesting.
I wish I had some GHB, to feel sociable. And some theanine, it's good stuff.
Declan
Posted by Racer on December 18, 2005, at 2:25:18
In reply to Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 0:17:33
> Why is it that i go out of my way if i feel i can offer insight on a post,i dont believe in getting involved in one inless i can either contribute or learn from it.
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> Why does it seem that a good amount oy questions i ask go unanswered,its pretty frustrating.A lot of us here don't answer if we don't have anything worthwhile to offer. You may have been asking questions that no one here could contribute to.
Posted by Racer on December 18, 2005, at 2:54:30
In reply to Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 0:17:33
I just did a very quick search, and found a couple of older posts of yours, and have another possible answer for you -- although you won't like hearing it. I know that this is treading on very thin ice, but I'm truly trying to offer you constructive information -- not even constructive criticism.
In reading your old threads, it looks as though you haven't always been very generous with people who have answered you. That can put people off from responding to you later. I found a thread where I answered you, and felt about half an inch tall when I read your response -- not even a thank you in it, just the reasons I was on the wrong track with my suggestion. That's OK, you don't have to thank anyone, and you do have the right to tell someone why you think they're wrong -- but it doesn't always encourage people to continue trying to answer you.
It also looks as though you're asking pretty similar questions each time, basically how to augment Parnate. It's possible that no one here knows the answer -- simple as that. Or maybe everyone who can offer any suggestions has already made them?
Now, this is a place where most of us suffer from mood disorders, and most of us have probably done the "thanks, BUT" and "yes, BUT" routine. I know I have. And I know that people have been less willing to extend themselves to me afterwards. I also know that some people here can be pretty sensitive and get our feelings hurt easily. And I know that sometimes it can be hard to balance between our own distress and that of others.
I hope that that's been of some help to you. Good luck.
Posted by ed_uk on December 18, 2005, at 4:41:10
In reply to Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 0:17:33
Hi Willy
Many of your questions would be very difficult to answer! :-)
Regards
Ed
Posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 8:11:21
In reply to Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 0:17:33
Lol WOW........Ok first i dont say thanks anymore because its just to constant,i guess i imagined everyone who ever gives input is always appreciated.
If i ever make someone feel like sh- well i am sorry,this page moves fast and its of course never my intention.I might disagree sometimes with an answer but i value it,if i did not then i of course would simply not post here.
I personly dont expect thank yous because i know if my information was useful its aprreciated.Even if i never end up knowing,just the fact i might have helped someone in life is a nice thought.
It is fair to say i ask ver similiar qustions,however this particular one i dont believe was,i have to see my doc soon and i just was hoping someone could in lamons terms describe how different Nuerotion is from pregablin.
I try to move fast on this group cause i dont wanna get caught up in it too much,like i have many times,and to keep it fiar i still try to answer anything i can,or offer anything i can.
If anyone knows me from other groups i usualy come right out if id rather not someone respond to me and ask them to,this group is extremly caring and whether or not i agree with a answer doesent mean a whole lot,it still gets computed up in whats left of the ole noggin.
I appreciate every response i get,im just scared of getting caught up here,i like to slide in and out,if not thanking someone which is understandable offends them,i am sorry,i would never ask questions if i did not value input,i ask and come back like everyone else to read others take on my question.
So and this is NOT SARCASTIC.........ONE BIG THANKS FOR every peiace of inpute to any question i posted,if i forget to thank in the future please no i dont take any thing in life for granted .Declan...........email me when u can brklyn234@yahoo.com
Posted by gardenergirl on December 18, 2005, at 9:40:56
In reply to Re: Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 8:11:21
Hi Willyee,
I know I get frustrated when my questions don't get as much of a response as I hoped.In your case, I just don't seem to ever have any input. I don't know much about Parnate. I can tell you that augmenting Nardil with Lamictal seems to be doing the trick for me.
Hope you find some good answers from your pdoc.
Take care,
gg
Posted by tarabara on December 18, 2005, at 12:03:32
In reply to Re: Why...... » willyee, posted by Sarah T. on December 18, 2005, at 0:48:11
i honestly think that it is some of the subject lines. i usually look for subject lines that i can relate to. the philosopher/academic in me was drawn to your "why" subject line. i was hoping to go into the meaning of life, haha.
the majority of the time, the subject line includes stuff that i know nothing about and therefore i don't feel like i can offer insight.
as far as responding to people with a "thanks," i agree with some of the other posters. sometimes if i am off the board for a few days, my post will disappear and i have to go hunting for it. sometimes i'm too overwhelmed to post. i think you and everyone who answered knows how helpful we can be to each other, otherwise we wouldn't keep responding to each others posts. i think there is a deeper understanding that we help each other out. it seems that the subject lines indicating a crisis state seem to get a lot of attention. if you really need help, change the subject line, repost, and don't take it personally. it happens to all of us. there are some unanswered posts on there from me right now. don't get defeated. we all want to help but i'm sure i'm not the only one who gets on here just thinking about myself and my own crisis.
ok, i think i've babbled long enough.
Posted by ed_uk on December 18, 2005, at 12:39:39
In reply to Re: Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 8:11:21
Hi Willy
>how different Nuerotion is from pregablin.
Now that's a question I can answer :-)
AFAIK, Neurontin and Lyrica have the same mechanism of action. Lyrica is more potent on a weight for weight basis but I'm not convinced that it's any more effective.
Regards
Ed
Posted by Tomatheus on December 18, 2005, at 16:02:32
In reply to Why......, posted by willyee on December 18, 2005, at 0:17:33
Willyee,
You pose an interesting question.
As others on this thread have mentioned, there are several different ways of explaining why various questions here go unanswered. Like others here, I really don't think that it would be useful for me to respond to answer questions that I cannot answer. As much as I'd like to acknowledge each question with an "I don't know," the board would obviously get quite clogged up if everybody were to do that. At times, I just don't have the time and the energy to read very many posts (let alone respond to them), so sometimes I don't answer questions that I might otherwise answer. I've also found that debate-style threads often tend to get so time-consuming that I usually prefer to stay out of them unless I can offer something that would be extremely useful to the debate. Finally, sometimes questions are answered so well by others that I just think it would be repetitive to just say things that have already been said, but less effectively. For example, Sarah T.'s response to your post was so well-written and thorough that it was hard for me to think of too many more things to say.
Tomatheus
> Why is it that i go out of my way if i feel i can offer insight on a post,i dont believe in getting involved in one inless i can either contribute or learn from it.
>
> Why does it seem that a good amount oy questions i ask go unanswered,its pretty frustrating.
Posted by Phillipa on December 18, 2005, at 22:27:48
In reply to Re: Why...... » willyee, posted by Tomatheus on December 18, 2005, at 16:02:32
Willyee in my case I know absolutely nothing about the MAOI's. Sometimes I will give an almost silly answer or just ask to follow the thread. I am always trying to learn about meds. And I also need to learn to say thank-you more often sorry I haven't. Fondly, Phillipa
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