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Posted by allin on June 2, 2005, at 14:40:35
hey there, i need some help, my wife recently snapped after 21 years of parental abuse, neglect, and negative support. I took her away from all of that and gave her a new life where we were growing together great. when she was younger her parents/boyfriends beat her and mentally abused her and never gave her support. well, the lack of and negative support finally made her snap, even in this new and wonderful world with me. I am accepting of hat and want to support her. She is seeking help and wants to heal, she is seeing a shrink and is now on effexor, started her at 37.5mg and she has been on it for a week now. She is having the tremors/sleepy/nausea/mood swings and it doesnt seem to be making her any happier. how long does it take to 'kick in'? Do you think she can be helped, she cant even face me right now, says that she feels too 'small' and insignificant next to me even though i am supporting her. she hasnt slept at home in 10 weeks. HELP
Posted by woolav on June 2, 2005, at 14:48:37
In reply to wifes on effexor, how long does it take?, posted by allin on June 2, 2005, at 14:40:35
Sorry to hear that. I know most drugs in that class take up to 4 weeks to fully work. She is prob having side effects, that should* eventually go away. I took effexor and it did nothing for me, so i changed to prozac. Unfortunately, its like a game of trial and error with these meds. Just be supportive like you are and let her know you are there for her.
Good Luck
S
Posted by allin on June 2, 2005, at 16:56:58
In reply to Re: wifes on effexor, how long does it take?, posted by woolav on June 2, 2005, at 14:48:37
thx for the support, she has tried 2 already and the third is the effexor, zoloft first (no good for her at all, and i cant remember the other), i gues its a waiting game from here, i feel helpless with her....the other day she said she wanted a divorce just so that she didnt hurt me anymore during this, and i remind you there has been no foul play on either side. you say prozac does that work for depression. just hanging around, kind of numb from all of this. can you give any suggestions on what i can do, specifics, like do i talk to her, what do i say to help....etc.
Posted by Phillipa on June 2, 2005, at 18:13:44
In reply to Re: wifes on effexor, how long does it take?, posted by allin on June 2, 2005, at 16:56:58
Where is she? Is she in a hospital? Is she reliving the past? Does her pdoc do therapy with her? Fondly, Phillipa
Posted by stresser on June 2, 2005, at 18:56:23
In reply to Re: wifes on effexor, how long does it take? » allin, posted by Phillipa on June 2, 2005, at 18:13:44
You have found a really good board for support about medications. Hang in there, things will get better. People will give you a lot of information, and refer you to different sites as well. You may want to check out some of the other Dr. Bob Boards, for support. Just look at the top of your page, and click on one that interests you. I does take a while to find the correct medication that will work for you, so be patient and know that we are here for you. -L
Posted by allin on June 3, 2005, at 15:18:57
In reply to Re: wifes on effexor, how long does it take? » allin, posted by Phillipa on June 2, 2005, at 18:13:44
she stays with her friend, at least she is safe there, its not like she is doing anything destructive to herself aside from the occasional overdrinking, but at least she does it at a home, too bad its not ours, pretty loanly for me, but its not about me, she is the one that needs to focus on herself....she is mentally not capable of working on marriage or worrying about me at this point, its a tough spot, but i am more worried for her, my pain and sadness can not even amount to anything she is going through, the suppressed feelings of all those years are now in full force, boggling her mind, and even though she is older it fels like she is a little girl agian dealing with it just aas strong as the pain was when it was happening. she is trying, poor wife is such a trooper so strong, but this is way hard...i cant imagine. Again, any suggestions, do i keep calling her and supporting her or just let her fight throught this. I ask because it seems that even my support hurts the situation, like she feels so small when i am around or talking to her that she has a tough time dealing with the fact that she has had to leave a loving caring husband because of her f'ed up parents and past........
Posted by allin on June 8, 2005, at 15:17:46
In reply to Re: wifes on effexor, how long does it take?, posted by allin on June 3, 2005, at 15:18:57
well, lets see, my new question deals with the occassional suicide thought that my wife expresses to me, she seems to be coming around, seems a lil bit more herself now that she has upped to the 75mg effexor. however, sometimes she falls off, and she says she would never do it but mentions suicide. Is this a normal side effect since she is still in the early stages of the drug or should i be more concerned.
Posted by Smeegle on June 9, 2005, at 23:30:39
In reply to Re: wifes on effexor, how long does it take?, posted by allin on June 8, 2005, at 15:17:46
I noticed a significant improvement within 3-5 days of taking Effexor. It was several years ago so I don't recall the exact ramp-up dosage or how long it took to get there (seems like it was a two week sample starter packet that he gave me). I noticed any time I missed a dose (and later on when I was at max dose if I was even a few hours late on my dose), that I would have suicidal thoughts. This was something I never thought I would act on either...never in a million years, but I did try...twice. When someone says that word, keep an eye on them. You don't have to hover, just be in tune with her moods and try to help make sure she's getting professional help.
Smeegs
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