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I want a mom

Posted by jammerlich on April 23, 2006, at 22:01:37

Well, I want one other than the one I have. God gave me a rotten one, if you ask me. And it feels like there is a hole inside of me that will never be filled unless I can have something like a "normal" (whatever that means) sort of mother/daughter relationship. It hurts an awful lot. And it feels really, really lonely. Remember the Dr. Suess book where the little - bird, was it(??) - walked around asking everyone and everything, "Are you my mother?" I'm sort of lost like that.

My sweet teacher/friend is becoming something like a mother. She tells me I'm like the daughter she never had. I don't know if she really means it, but it sure is nice to hear. She's out of town right now and I miss her so much. I keep telling myself she'll be back Tuesday night, but it doesn't help. I helped her book her ticket, but the selfish part of me hated doing it. Her husband joked that he hoped it was a one-way ticket. I wanted to hit him. I ache for her; I have for 20 years, ever since she was my teacher. She is special.

I'd hoped writing this would help with the hurt; but so far, not so much. Any suggestions on how to get through the next couple of days?

And is it possible to fill this "mother hole?"

 

Re: I want a mom » jammerlich

Posted by MidnightBlue on April 23, 2006, at 23:00:47

In reply to I want a mom, posted by jammerlich on April 23, 2006, at 22:01:37

I think you are doing a real good job! I used to love reading that book to my kids. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with picking out a new "mom" if you need or want one. And it sounds like this teacher really likes having you for a daughter.

ENJOY it!

 

Re: I want a mom » jammerlich

Posted by ClearSkies on April 23, 2006, at 23:03:32

In reply to I want a mom, posted by jammerlich on April 23, 2006, at 22:01:37

I think there are many of us who feel the same way. I've been told that there are lots of moms out there for us - that come into our lives as friends, coworkers, casual acquaintances - who fill that role at various times of our life.

It hurts to need a mom and not have the mom we have be able to be that mom. If that makes sense.

 

Re: I want a mom » ClearSkies

Posted by Phillipa on April 24, 2006, at 21:19:21

In reply to Re: I want a mom » jammerlich, posted by ClearSkies on April 23, 2006, at 23:03:32

Clealy My own Mother died when I was l7 yrs old and no one has ever been a Mother to me. Wanna be my Mother? Love Phillipa


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