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Posted by alexandra_k on May 15, 2005, at 20:52:19
Is controversy bad???
Because people do have a tendancy to get upset
And from there tend to disintegrate into attacks against persons
But the chain isn't cast in stone
The move from one step to the next is not inevitable
But it is rational to take irrational responses into account when they are fairly likely to occur
Is it better to avoid controversy???Support on the one hand
Education on the other
Controversy can be the start of learning
To look at the arguments on each side
And figure out for oneself what is most convincing.
But sometimes questioning isn't allowed.
Questioning gets vanishedMaybe it is just a poor fit
That is nobodies fault
But it hurts
Posted by Shy_Girl on May 15, 2005, at 23:28:14
In reply to Controversy..., posted by alexandra_k on May 15, 2005, at 20:52:19
> Is controversy bad???
I don't think controversy is in itself bad. I think people can learn a lot from it. Like you mentioned, it only gets "bad" when people start to attack each other.
> Is it better to avoid controversy???
I don't know, maybe for some people avoiding controversy is the best thing to do. I myself actually like controversy...it is thought provoking...lets me see other's views more clearly. I know there are certain controversies that can never be resolved...I'm ok with that.
I respect all views...even those that are very different from mine. Also, I can never hold a grudge against anyone for any length of time.
Posted by alexandra_k on May 16, 2005, at 1:20:08
In reply to Re: Controversy... » alexandra_k, posted by Shy_Girl on May 15, 2005, at 23:28:14
> > Is controversy bad???
>
> I don't think controversy is in itself bad. I think people can learn a lot from it. Like you mentioned, it only gets "bad" when people start to attack each other.Yeah.
I don't think there is much that is bad in itself either... But sometimes the consequences are fairly predictable I suppose... Then it is probably wise to avoid the whole scenario...
> > Is it better to avoid controversy???
> I don't know, maybe for some people avoiding controversy is the best thing to do.Yeah. Maybe in some settings.
But it is my option...
I guess I know that that setting doesn't like it.
Doesn't want it.
Thats ok.
I don't have to go there.>I myself actually like controversy...it is thought provoking...lets me see other's views more clearly. I know there are certain controversies that can never be resolved...I'm ok with that.
:-)
Yeah. Me too I guess.
> I respect all views...even those that are very different from mine. Also, I can never hold a grudge against anyone for any length of time.Yeah.
Thanks.
I think I'm seeing the situation a little more clearly now...I am who I am.
Thank you.
Posted by Dinah on May 16, 2005, at 9:01:40
In reply to Controversy..., posted by alexandra_k on May 15, 2005, at 20:52:19
I have the distinct feeling I've missed something?
My experience with "controversy" is that it just ends up with people even more entrenched in their own beliefs with more walls up against the "other" side.
My experience is that opening people's hearts and minds (and getting them to think about viewpoints other than their own) is best done in ways that aren't controversial at all.
Being honest, open, and vulnerable about speaking of one's own experiences isn't the least bit controversial, especially if one isn't labelling anyone else's behavior or thoughts at the same time.
Maybe it all depends on what is considered "controversial", though.
Posted by alexandra_k on May 18, 2005, at 0:28:07
In reply to Re: Controversy... » alexandra_k, posted by Dinah on May 16, 2005, at 9:01:40
> I have the distinct feeling I've missed something?
I'm sorry to sound cryptic.
It's okay.
You haven't really missed anything.Thanks for responding.
:-)
I'm just rambling really...
Raving possibly.
I'm exhausted.
I feel like I could sleep for a week.Three weeks to go...
Posted by Dinah on May 18, 2005, at 8:09:21
In reply to Re: Controversy... » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on May 18, 2005, at 0:28:07
The end of school? Gosh it seems like it just began.
I think I"m getting old.
Posted by alexandra_k on May 18, 2005, at 16:34:58
In reply to What happens in three weeks?, posted by Dinah on May 18, 2005, at 8:09:21
The end of the A semester.
See...
It goes...6 weeks of class
2 weeks of 'study break'
6 weeks of class
1 week of study break
2 weeks of exams
2 weeks of holiday
B semester (6 weeks of class).So yup. It is over pretty quick. But tutoring stops for me and the end of the 2nd 6 weeks of class AND I AM NOT TUTORING NEXT SEMESTER. Though I seem to have to say this over and over.
I do not want to tutor next semester.
Tutoring media ethics would be tutoring - so no thanks
etc etc.
Posted by Dinah on May 18, 2005, at 20:07:12
In reply to Re: What happens in three weeks? » Dinah, posted by alexandra_k on May 18, 2005, at 16:34:58
Stick to your message, Alexandra.
If it's too much for you, don't let them talk you into it.
This is the end of the thread.
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