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Posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 21:28:04
Today is my birthday and I feel like nothing more than a major inconvenience and burden in everybody's life.
My family forgot me, including my 27 year old son. He's too busy 'entertaining' his new girlfriend to even think of me.
I don't feel that I'll ever be happy and if it weren't for my two cats that I love with all my heart, this would also be the last day of my life but I can't leave them so unfortunately I have to continue to live for them. They, at least, need me and love me even if nobody else does.
So, I will continue to live this existence of mine that is supposed to be called 'life' so that I can continue to love my 2 kitties as nobody else can. They love and need me as much as I love and need them. They're all I have.
Sorry, I just needed to vent. Please choose to ignore. I'm not looking for attention or pity, I just needed to get this off my chest as I sit here for the last hour crying uncontrollably. Unfortunately, typing this out didn't make me feel any better. :(
Unloved,
AG
Posted by trucker on December 10, 2004, at 21:48:25
In reply to Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 21:28:04
hey AG..
happy birthday.. sorry everyone in your life is so involved with their SELVES that they forgot you.. i too have been having similar feeling but who would take care of my dogs.. and they are so spoiled that i know no one will care for them like me.. esp my beagles.. they would be shoved outside on a chain and they are indoor pups. all 5 are.. i just wanted to let ya know we do care here on babble.. and it has been my only life line sometimes. esp when you are so low that your looking up at a snakes belly (so to speak).. take care and happy birthday and remember "GOD DON'T MAKE NO JUNK" AND "THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A WOOPS IN GOD'S HOUSE.. " i was created.. how bout you?
love and GOD BLESS
trucker////////////////////////////////////////////////////> Today is my birthday and I feel like nothing more than a major inconvenience and burden in everybody's life.
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> My family forgot me, including my 27 year old son. He's too busy 'entertaining' his new girlfriend to even think of me.
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> I don't feel that I'll ever be happy and if it weren't for my two cats that I love with all my heart, this would also be the last day of my life but I can't leave them so unfortunately I have to continue to live for them. They, at least, need me and love me even if nobody else does.
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> So, I will continue to live this existence of mine that is supposed to be called 'life' so that I can continue to love my 2 kitties as nobody else can. They love and need me as much as I love and need them. They're all I have.
>
> Sorry, I just needed to vent. Please choose to ignore. I'm not looking for attention or pity, I just needed to get this off my chest as I sit here for the last hour crying uncontrollably. Unfortunately, typing this out didn't make me feel any better. :(
>
> Unloved,
> AG
Posted by Toph on December 10, 2004, at 22:13:00
In reply to Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 21:28:04
Hey AG, you don't know me and I hope you don't mind me crashing your party, but I heard there was a birthday party here, and well, I like to party. Happy Birthday. You know you don't look old enough to have an ungrateful 27-year old. Hey, I brought you this birthday present for your cats, it's cat-nip that hangs from the ceiling and drives them nuts. I would have brought you something more personal but I only heard about your cats. OK, so excuse me, I need to go get a beer. Can I get you something?
-Toph
Posted by AdaGrace on December 10, 2004, at 22:18:43
In reply to Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 21:28:04
How about Toph and I take you out to the local tavern and we'll sit there and people watch.....make up storied about their lives.....
Or not......
Posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 22:28:07
In reply to Re: Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!! » Angel Girl, posted by AdaGrace on December 10, 2004, at 22:18:43
I appreciate y'all's efforts to cheer me up but honestly, nothing is going to get me out of this depressed state right now. I just wish I was dead but I have 2 kitties that need me so I can't even do that!!! I'm sorry to be such a downer. I really wasn't expecting or looking for replies.
AG
PS: God did make JUNK when he made me.
Posted by Dinah on December 10, 2004, at 22:54:06
In reply to Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 21:28:04
Well, my husband remembered. But everyone else including my mother who went through labor to have me plumb forgot. I don't like to make a fuss about my birthday, and didn't want presents. But a "Happy Birthday, Dinah" would have been fine. My son didn't even draw me a card.
I'm not someone who expects other people to remember on their own, either. I had (as usual) mentioned my upcoming birthday to everyone as it approached.
But I don't think it means they don't love me. It stung a bit, but I know they just got involved and forgot. It happens. So I called my mother up and reminded her (and thanked her for giving me life 43 years ago). And she reminded my father who called me up and was amazingly sweet. Horrid person that I am, I already forgot what incredibly sweet thing he said, but I'll never forget that he was incredibly sweet to me. And my son loves me to pieces. He just isn't someone who remembers to do thoughtful things without prompting yet. I'm sure he will eventually - after he's prompted enough.
So - HAPPY BIRTHDAY. I hope this next year will be a terrific one for you.
And which of your family is the nicest? Why don't you call them and give them a very polite reminder that today is your birthday. There might be people who aren't so good at remembering but that who still will respond wonderfully if reminded.
Posted by Toph on December 10, 2004, at 22:54:28
In reply to Re: Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 22:28:07
Look, Angel, We're not leavin. I didn't drive all that way to, well all that way to pick up AG for nothing, wait a minute, you're AG too. Besides, I'm not done with my beer. No wait, don't call the cops. I'll just tell them that you called us. Look nobody knows about being bummed out like Gracie and me. And here, hold this for a second, look what I did once when I was stupid, not that I'm not still stupid. So, believe me, we know how you feel. OK, OK, we'll leave, but how about you let me put this cat-nip thingy up first. Angel, if you ever need to talk with someone, my friend Ada,I really care,Grace is someone I'm sure you can count on. We're sorry to barge in on you like this but I hope you know that if you open the door someone will listen. Are you comin or what AG?
Posted by trucker on December 11, 2004, at 0:05:11
In reply to Re: Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 22:28:07
NO HE DIDN'T... THAT IS A LIE FROM THE PIT... you aren't now.. nor will you ever be junk.. tell the voices or who ever is telling you that that it is a lie.. you are good people. and GOD loves you and we care for you here at babble too..
trucker
///////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////////> I appreciate y'all's efforts to cheer me up but honestly, nothing is going to get me out of this depressed state right now. I just wish I was dead but I have 2 kitties that need me so I can't even do that!!! I'm sorry to be such a downer. I really wasn't expecting or looking for replies.
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> AG
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> PS: God did make JUNK when he made me.
Posted by AdaGrace on December 11, 2004, at 0:16:32
In reply to Re: Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Toph on December 10, 2004, at 22:54:28
Coming? well Ummm that's sorta personal isn't it?
Ohhhh that one is spelled with a u okay I get it.
Ada, unsatified once again, Grace
Posted by AdaGrace on December 11, 2004, at 0:20:17
In reply to Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 21:28:04
AG, this is AG, and I just had a monumental birthday and Daddy O forgot it.....never mentioned it. So I got him back....made him pay for my breakfast and then thanked him for the birthday present. His misty macular degenerative eyes looked at me and said..."Where's the car"?
Now....if I could just be Cher in that movie and look at myself in the mirror......slap myself and say "Snap out of it"!!!!
Ada, sorry your birthday sucked but wishing you a better day tomorrow, Grace
Posted by trucker on December 11, 2004, at 0:22:18
In reply to Re: Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!! » Toph, posted by AdaGrace on December 11, 2004, at 0:16:32
now i feel like E-OR.. ya know the donkey on winnie the pooh.. so down.. lets stop being e-ors and have a good night.. those folks will feel like heals when they realize they forgot your b-day..
take care i am going to bed now.. e-or style!!!
trucker
Posted by alesta on December 11, 2004, at 5:34:43
In reply to Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 10, 2004, at 21:28:04
angel girl,:)
i hope you feel better. i can relate to how you feel. i just wanted to wish you a happy birthday.:-)
sending you smiles,:):)
ami
Posted by Angel Girl on December 15, 2004, at 2:32:45
In reply to Re: Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!! » Angel Girl, posted by alesta on December 11, 2004, at 5:34:43
Thanks everybody for your kind and sweet, cheering words. I'm ok now but I was still bummed the day after my birthday. I wasn't saying that my son doesn't love me just because he forgot my birthday. It's far more complicated than that and a long story. I have felt this way for a very long time, although he tells me it's not true. But when he forgot my birthday, that just fed into my belief system confirming my feelings.
BTW, would someone who *claims* to love you but never shows it (and forgets your birthday to boot) not be concerned and try to do what they can to change your beliefs? He doesn't. A lot of our phone calls ends up with him hanging up on me. Lately he's been a real *trigger* for me.
I guess I know what I'm talking about in therapy this week. In fact, I was soooooo upset that my sister, who couldn't deny anything I said to her was fact about my son, thinks I need to tell my pdoc at this week's appt that my meds aren't working. Dang, and what was your first clue? :/ We've been playing with meds since 2001 and still haven't found the right ones. :(
Anyway, I just wanted to thank y'all for wishing me a happy birthday and trying to cheer me up.
Oh, and btw, he remembered my Mom's birthday yesterday. I'm glad for her.
A very somber and numb AG
Posted by trucker on December 15, 2004, at 6:57:55
In reply to Re: Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by Angel Girl on December 15, 2004, at 2:32:45
that boy needs a good swift kick in the A--. don't care what happened in the past.. you are supposed to honor your mother and your father.. it is a sin. give it to GOD.
trucker
Posted by Angel Girl on December 15, 2004, at 13:14:17
In reply to Re: Happy F'ng Birthday To Me!!!, posted by trucker on December 15, 2004, at 6:57:55
> that boy needs a good swift kick in the A--. don't care what happened in the past.. you are supposed to honor your mother and your father.. it is a sin. give it to GOD.
>
> trucker
Hi truckerI'm afraid he's a *tad* too old for that unfortunately. He's 27 on Christmas Eve. Hmmmmmm, maybe I shouldn't phone him and wish him Happy Birthday. Then again, he probably wouldn't notice or care if he did. :/ I've been praying for him most of his life and I don't see any improvements yet. :\
AG
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