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Posted by JenStar on August 9, 2004, at 14:33:04
hi all,
I found this odd article on CNN about non-sex 'cuddle parties.'http://www.cnn.com/2004/US/Northeast/08/09/cuddling.parties.2.reut/index.html
Would anyone consider going to one? Have you ever been to one? It sounds tempting to go, just to get a funny story out of it. But the thought of mooing like a cow in my PJ's with lots of other people...somehow...it's just not "me." That's a lot to go through just for a funny story!
Still, though, the article touched on a deeper issue; that of people needing physical contact for emotional strength. What do you think about that?
JenStar
Posted by CavemanXx on August 9, 2004, at 16:02:10
In reply to Strange article on CDD - cuddle parties, posted by JenStar on August 9, 2004, at 14:33:04
Sounds like a good idea. Lets have one!
As long as I cuddle with the opposite sex!I really do agree with it building emotional strength
My Mom was always the cuddling type. Even my Dad. They were always showing affection and closeness for each other and us kids. I got a lot of cuddling when I was a child. But my wife is not the "cuddling" type. I really crave just being held, having my back scratched. ect. I can honestly say that touching is as important as sex. Is this normal for a man?
Now I'm the same with my kids. My 7 yr. old daughter loves hugging me holding my hand, falling asleep on my lap. My 10 yr. old boy has his independent times but then out of the blue he is full of hugs which I return.
My 19 yr. old spent a lot of time with his Mom (my first wife). He complains that she is too affraid of showing physical unaffection. She won't even scratch his back. He comes over to my house and asks me to scratch his back and I do. Out in pulic I feel like resting my arm on his shoulder, not like a hug, more like pals. I find it breaks the ice, makes us losen up and talk more. But unfortunately we get occaisional stares and whispers. some people think we're a gay couple if they don't see the Father/son resmblance. Which is sad.
Other countries have different standards for physical touch. when I was in China, all of the single young women/girls walked down the street holding hands. It was a beautiful thing to see. such inocence!
Well I'm through flapping my jaws or (keyboard.)
CavemanXx
CavemanXx
Posted by B2chica on August 9, 2004, at 16:38:38
In reply to Re: Strange article on CDD - cuddle parties, posted by CavemanXx on August 9, 2004, at 16:02:10
CavemanXx
(though i'm married) i think i love you!i haven't read that article yet but i'm just responding to your post. I completely agree that it builds emotional strength. For me it's totally a trust thing too. If i don't know or trust you i don't even want you touching me arm/shoulder ANYTHING!!
i give out touch side by side with trust.I do have times when i don't want to be touched at all but that's normally after i've had a rough session with my T or if i've been getting some nasty flashback thinggies. But otherwise i Thrive on closeness. I too "crave" it.
-in fact what really made me respond to your post is i've been having this weird sense of "fear" lately. it's all around me and i'm just starving to be held, to feel closeness. i think to wash out the feelings of fear. It's so intense, like someone is there waiting to get me. i Want/Need to be held.>>I can honestly say that touching is as important as sex. Is this normal for a man?
who Cares...normal shmormal! I wish my hubby loved it as much as you do!
Luckily he Does Love having his back scratched and i Always know Just the Right Spot!- when he's sitting on one of the barstools we have at our kitchen counter -perfect height- i scratch for a while(for him) and then i will just lay/lean on his back and just squeeze him (that's for me!) until he wriggles away.
and Touching IS as important as sex.>>Now I'm the same with my kids...out of the blue he is full of hugs which I return.
That is BEAUTIFUL! you sound like a great daddy.
>> Out in pulic I feel like resting my arm on his shoulder, not like a hug, more like pals. I find it breaks the ice, makes us losen up and talk more. But unfortunately we get occaisional stares and whispers. some people think we're a gay couple if they don't see the Father/son resmblance. Which is sad.That IS just sad.
I do this with my nephews All the time! I'll plop right on the couch right next to them -arm to arm-, i love hanging onto their arms or i'll rest on their shoulder like you (though now their much taller than me :)...sometimes i worry if i'm crossing some kind of weird taboo thing but i figure if they are comfortable with it it doesn't matter,(and they usually return the hugs, touch etc.- infact now my youngest nephew leans his shoulder on me...cuz he's so dang big now i can't reach his shoulder!)
But I want them to know i love them and will ALWAYS give them hugs no matter HOW old they get!
>>Other countries have different standards for physical touch. when I was in China, all of the single young women/girls walked down the street holding hands. It was a beautiful thing to see. such inocence!I think this IS a beautiful thing. and i think innocence is the perfect word you used.
Thank you for that inspiring post.
b2c.
Posted by CavemanXx on August 10, 2004, at 4:55:29
In reply to Re: Strange article on CDD - cuddle parties, posted by B2chica on August 9, 2004, at 16:38:38
And I love you too!!
Your a gal right? Thanks for all the compliments! What a picker upper! I'll have to invite you to my cuddle party. You sound like a fun gal. (nevermind the pun).Hey, wasn't there a time when guys would walk down the street with there arms around each others shoulders? Remember the old movies? Sharing a bottle of booze and singing goofy songs.
If that happened now, in these days, some gang would see them, think that they are gay, then beat the **** out of them.
Sad... People are turning into islands.Caveman
Posted by AuntieMel on August 10, 2004, at 9:19:10
In reply to Re: Strange article on CDD - cuddle parties, posted by CavemanXx on August 9, 2004, at 16:02:10
No, but it should be. Arise! Revolt! Set a better standard!
If I saw you resting your arm on his shoulder, I would stare and whisper too. But I'd be whispering (look at that! I sure wish my husband was that affectionate with the kids)
Some stares are good;)
Posted by fallsfall on August 10, 2004, at 9:35:41
In reply to Strange article on CDD - cuddle parties, posted by JenStar on August 9, 2004, at 14:33:04
I am really big on hugs and cuddling. I have been known to ask a friend to come over just because I need a hug (and I told her that's why I wanted her to come!).
My daughter (21) and I were on vacation last week. She walked up to me in the middle of the cottage and sort of draped herself on me. I asked if she was tired, and she said "No, I just want to cuddle". Heaven. We just stood there holding each other. We repeated this a couple of times over the next couple of days. Later, when we watched a movie I sat on the couch next to her (instead of on the other chair), and held her until my arm was long past being asleep. I wish she still lived at home...
I do think I prefer hugging people who I know, though...
Posted by B2chica on August 11, 2004, at 9:32:17
In reply to Re: Strange article on CDD - cuddle parties, posted by CavemanXx on August 10, 2004, at 4:55:29
Yep, i'm all female.
Thanks Caveman, i'll be there with bells on (if you like that-wink)i Love old movies, i think the best movies ever made were in the 40's (but i'm also a BIG silent movie fan -kinda weird i know...)
but you're right-again i think that's showing the innocence people had. and i do think they'd get a few smacks.b2c.
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