Posted by B2chica on August 9, 2004, at 16:38:38
In reply to Re: Strange article on CDD - cuddle parties, posted by CavemanXx on August 9, 2004, at 16:02:10
CavemanXx
(though i'm married) i think i love you!i haven't read that article yet but i'm just responding to your post. I completely agree that it builds emotional strength. For me it's totally a trust thing too. If i don't know or trust you i don't even want you touching me arm/shoulder ANYTHING!!
i give out touch side by side with trust.I do have times when i don't want to be touched at all but that's normally after i've had a rough session with my T or if i've been getting some nasty flashback thinggies. But otherwise i Thrive on closeness. I too "crave" it.
-in fact what really made me respond to your post is i've been having this weird sense of "fear" lately. it's all around me and i'm just starving to be held, to feel closeness. i think to wash out the feelings of fear. It's so intense, like someone is there waiting to get me. i Want/Need to be held.>>I can honestly say that touching is as important as sex. Is this normal for a man?
who Cares...normal shmormal! I wish my hubby loved it as much as you do!
Luckily he Does Love having his back scratched and i Always know Just the Right Spot!- when he's sitting on one of the barstools we have at our kitchen counter -perfect height- i scratch for a while(for him) and then i will just lay/lean on his back and just squeeze him (that's for me!) until he wriggles away.
and Touching IS as important as sex.>>Now I'm the same with my kids...out of the blue he is full of hugs which I return.
That is BEAUTIFUL! you sound like a great daddy.
>> Out in pulic I feel like resting my arm on his shoulder, not like a hug, more like pals. I find it breaks the ice, makes us losen up and talk more. But unfortunately we get occaisional stares and whispers. some people think we're a gay couple if they don't see the Father/son resmblance. Which is sad.That IS just sad.
I do this with my nephews All the time! I'll plop right on the couch right next to them -arm to arm-, i love hanging onto their arms or i'll rest on their shoulder like you (though now their much taller than me :)...sometimes i worry if i'm crossing some kind of weird taboo thing but i figure if they are comfortable with it it doesn't matter,(and they usually return the hugs, touch etc.- infact now my youngest nephew leans his shoulder on me...cuz he's so dang big now i can't reach his shoulder!)
But I want them to know i love them and will ALWAYS give them hugs no matter HOW old they get!
>>Other countries have different standards for physical touch. when I was in China, all of the single young women/girls walked down the street holding hands. It was a beautiful thing to see. such inocence!I think this IS a beautiful thing. and i think innocence is the perfect word you used.
Thank you for that inspiring post.
b2c.
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