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Posted by galkeepinon on September 12, 2003, at 6:09:17
It's 3:30am and I'm up, been up all night. I just got done a crying spell and am trying to calm myself down. I'm on my 6th week of Lexapro and just increased Lamictal to 50mg. The thing is, is that my psychiatrist doesn't think I should be on Topamax OR Lamictal because I told him I rarely ever get manic. The only reason why he agreed to increase the Lamictal was because I told him I heard it was good for cycling, which I rarely have anymore, but wanted to be *safe* and that it helps more with the 'depression' side of bipolar, so why not add it to the Lexapro?
I read some other posts and right now I'm wondering if Lex is going to fail me or the increase to only 50mg of Lamictal is making me feel like this? The things I cried about had nothing to with anyone except me. I have no motivation to complete school, something I started at a year ago (transferred as a senior), I'm so close to getting my BA, I'm killing my body with cigarettes and unhealthy food. I can't remember the last time I had a nice piece of salmon with the omega 3 fatty acids, I don't take vitamins, I haven't eaten fruit forever, I get NO exercise, and vegetables, come and go, hardly at all.
When I get so upset that I cry over what I'm doing to my body physically, I want to change, but it passes, and I stay stuck in my sadness about it.
Mentally, I am experiencing extreme fear and sadness over my life, what I should or shouldn't do, I get so confused. It's like I felt tonight that I have no idea what life is really about or how to handle it. I don't know if this has anything to do with the increase of the Lamictal or it's something that any medication just won't help with. I am so ill-feeling that the thought of looking for a therapist makes me cry even more because of all the time and energy it takes to find a good one. I've done so much therapy already but obviously it hasn't helped, at least not with the reasons I am crying, and feeling this way all of the sudden after doing so well for the first few weeks on Lexapro. I just don't have that energy right now. I think to myself if I'm making excuses but in my mind I'm not, I just can't handle the emotional stress in finding someone I can talk to who can help me, besides my mother, sort out these issues so I can get on with some kind of life. It hurts so bad. *crying* I feel like I will never get out of this rut and just don't have the motivation or energy to do anything at all. I am getting my hair weaved this morning and I don't even care about that, it's not going to make me feel better. I miss working, I miss being with people, and I miss my old self. I'm a total people person and want so bad to contribute to this world, and I have failed, and it hurts to know I have wasted the last 10 or 11 years not being *well* enough to do so. This has gone on far too long and I'm so sick of it. I'm crying because I am so lost right now, I'm not sure what to do, where to start, like I just don't care. Advice seems to go in one ear and out the other yet here I am posting asking for it at now almost 4am, still crying and asking for help. I guess I needed to vent and maybe whoever reads this can shed some sort of light for me? I feel like I'm a total difficult nut case, because I just am at the point where I really don't care about anything and that's not good. I've had almost 3 months to make up a term at school because I was in the hospital the whole month of May, and I haven't even touched the work. I have issues of my mother trying hard to control where I go to school, what I do with my life, and I'm 33. Isn't about time I'm able to live my life without my mother trying to live through me? I love her, she has been there for me, so I feel guilty in even talking about her in this post. I was sitting in the dining room just wanting her to come in and hold me, but she's sleeping. And even if I told her, she already knows I am unhappy, and it would just hurt her more to go through this same route of me saying, I'm depressed and crying mom. No one knows I'm crying, and my friends don't know how much pain I really am in, because I don't want to tell them. They have their own lives. I'm embarrassed to tell them hey-I'm not doing good. I don't know what to do, I'm sick of medication, I thought the Lex was helping, but ever since I increased my Lamictal 3 days ago, I have fell into a depression again.
Does ANYONE have any experience with this happening to them with Lamictal, or does anyone think that meds are just not going to cut it for me? I took an extra 1mg of Klonopin and an extra flexeril today just to sleep and maybe calm down, this pattern happened back in April and I ended up in the hospital, I don't want to go there.
Thanks for anyone who got this far in reading this, I needed to post hoping to get some sort of suggestion, to reach out, and to vent. Thank you for reading this far if you did.
galkeepinon
Posted by Liligoth on September 12, 2003, at 7:51:53
In reply to Please advice/feedback/guidance, posted by galkeepinon on September 12, 2003, at 6:09:17
Hang in there Gal. If you are religious then prayer would be good right now. The only thing I know is that we do cycle therefore this will change & you will feel better sooner or later with or without the meds. You've just got to hang in there. Dont beat yourself up about school & not taking proper care of yourself right now. You are unwell & cant do these things at the moment. Once you are feeling a bit better & are a bit stronger you can start doing all those things.
It will get better!
Lily
Posted by Susan J on September 12, 2003, at 9:44:53
In reply to Please advice/feedback/guidance, posted by galkeepinon on September 12, 2003, at 6:09:17
Hi,
I'm writing because your post really touched me. I just reread what I've written, and it probably isn't much help at all. So please, take whatever good is there and throw away the rest. Whatever happens, I hope things get better for you. And as long as you wake up the next morning, there's hope for a brighter day. :-) (Don't tell me I'm wrong on this, it's what I keep telling myself since things don't look brighter for me, either).
>> I have no motivation to complete school, something I started at a year ago (transferred as a senior), I'm so close to getting my BA, I'm killing my body with cigarettes and unhealthy food. I can't remember the last time I had a nice piece of salmon with the omega 3 fatty acids, I don't take vitamins, I haven't eaten fruit forever, I get NO exercise, and vegetables, come and go, hardly at all.
<<Oh, you sound like my twin. :-) Well, I don't think I'm bipolar, haven't been diagnosed that, but the pain you feel and your inability to try to do anything healthy sounds so much like me. I'm so sorry you are going through so much pain.
> Mentally, I am experiencing extreme fear and sadness over my life, what I should or shouldn't do, I get so confused. It's like I felt tonight that I have no idea what life is really about or how to handle it.
<<I know that feeling, too. After being depressed almost 2 years straight, I wonder if this is the true story of the rest of my life. How's that for a bummer?Something that has helped me is to permit myself to change my priorities. Realize it's OK to do less. Less really can be *more*. More healthy for you, more rewarding.
I was on a professional fast track. I'm fairly smart and that's what I've tried to improve on all my life. So here I am at 36, and not trying to be ambitious anymore. I watch my peers get promoted over and over. And I just sit here. 5 years ago, that would have been unacceptable to me. Now, it's OK. I instead focus on learning about myself, what makes me happy, stable, healthy, etc. Instead, I focus on what would make me happy each day. It might be taking a nap. Before, that would seem like a selfish waste of time. Now, it's a treat. It might be taking my dog for a walk in the woods. Before, I should be getting to the gym every day.
Before, I wanted to be the best lawyer, the most ethical, compassionate, wise judge there was... Now, I feel I give to this world just by being nice and polite to people, doing some volunteer work, and taking care of my dog that I got at a rescue shelter. These are TINY TINY little things. No one is ever going to write a book about me. They are little, but they matter. They bring little bits of comfort to others.
>>I'm a total people person and want so bad to contribute to this world, and I have failed, and it hurts to know I have wasted the last 10 or 11 years not being *well* enough to do so.
<<NO! You haven't failed. This is kind of what I was trying to say earlier, although not saying it well. You have't wasted the last 10 or 11 years. You have been learning. Maybe it's learning to cope. Maybe it's learning more about *you*. But you haven't wasted anything. I know you feel like you haven't done enough. But I really mean it when I say smiling at someone on the street *helps* that person, it really does. What if they feel like the ugliest person on the planet, and some nice stranger smiled at them? What if somebody was having a crappy day at work, and you let them merge in front of you in a traffic jam? Nice little gestures help restore people's faith in other people. Just sharing your pain on these boards is helpful to others like me. Helps me learn, cope, question, look for answers where I've never looked before. That's a gift you've given me *just* by writing. :-)These are little things, but they are, in my opinion, adding more *good* into the world than *bad*, so you are contributing. We can't all be Mother Teresa. We shouldn't even try.
>>Advice seems to go in one ear and out the other yet here I am posting asking for it at now almost 4am, still crying and asking for help. I guess I needed to vent and maybe whoever reads this can shed some sort of light for me?
<<It's OK if advice doesn't ring true for you. Venting helps, and knowing other people care helps, I hope.
<<I have issues of my mother trying hard to control where I go to school, what I do with my life, and I'm 33. Isn't about time I'm able to live my life without my mother trying to live through me? I love her, she has been there for me, so I feel guilty in even talking about her in this post.
>>You could be my twin with this. :-) Maybe your mother, like mine, is not trying really to control where you go or what you do. It might just be her way of trying to stop your pain. I told my mom the other night that it really was OK with me if she didn't like me. We are so different and she has no clue how to relate to me. She keeps trying to push me to be *happy* and I can't do it. My mom told me (guilt trip for me) that nothing hurts as much as seeing your own child hurt. I never thought she felt that way. Maybe your mom is hurting, too, watching you struggle, and she's just trying to do the best she can....You are a good person. And one thing I think depression does to everyone it touches is make them more insightful, wiser. And in being more insightful and wiser about yourself, you can't help but help others when you interact with them....
Susan
Posted by justyourlaugh on September 12, 2003, at 19:29:21
In reply to Please advice/feedback/guidance, posted by galkeepinon on September 12, 2003, at 6:09:17
galk...you sound very strong to me..you are searching...you know your own meds..
i was put on topamax...spent 7 days trying to run from to police...very scary,,the worst was feeling that my own husband want me to kill myselfm to give us a way out of this hell...
you sound to me that you are borderline..and "any drug" will be "the one" or "be the demon"
please be patient..
please hold on..
we need you..
j
Posted by galkeepinon on September 13, 2003, at 0:37:31
In reply to Re: Please advice/feedback/guidance » galkeepinon, posted by Liligoth on September 12, 2003, at 7:51:53
Hi, I'm hanging in there. I woke up feeling a little better this morning, but the day ended really stressful~just way too much family stuff going on right now. Thanks for your post, I really appreciate it. I'm praying more and more these days it seems, even though I'm not too sure if He hears me.
I hope you're right about feeling better sooner or later, it's pretty much gone on all summer, except like I said the first few weeks of starting Lexapro I was doing really well, handling things better, etc. I really think this Lamictal is just not for me~at least not at 50mg. I have been feeling horrible since I increased it 3 nights ago. I can't afford to have these 'cycles' when I start my Fall term in 2 weeks. I am going to see how things go over the weekend and call my psychiatrist Monday~see what he has to say.
Thank you for your kind words~I really pray that it gets better not only for me but to everyone here who is suffering from any form of depression.
Take Care!
> Hang in there Gal. If you are religious then prayer would be good right now. The only thing I know is that we do cycle therefore this will change & you will feel better sooner or later with or without the meds. You've just got to hang in there. Dont beat yourself up about school & not taking proper care of yourself right now. You are unwell & cant do these things at the moment. Once you are feeling a bit better & are a bit stronger you can start doing all those things.
> It will get better!
> Lily
Posted by galkeepinon on September 13, 2003, at 1:03:34
In reply to Re: Please advice/feedback/guidance » galkeepinon, posted by Susan J on September 12, 2003, at 9:44:53
Susan, thank you very much for your kind words and support, as well as sharing with me some of your feelings. I am deeply grateful. Your post, of course, helped me tremendously. I take it all:-) The day went a little better, but I am really stressed out tonight and physically I think the increase of Lamictal is partially to blame here. I saw your post this morning and you were right~I woke up today.
I really appreciate your empathy. I understand when you wonder if this is a true story of the rest of your life, I wonder too. My thoughts are with you too, even though I'm feeling a little 'off' lately.
Thank you for helping me to realize that it's OK to do less, or even maybe BE less ya know?
You DO sound like my twin~I have watched my peers get promoted over and over. And I just sit here.
I am going to heed your advice about focusing on learning about myself, what makes me happy, stable, healthy, etc.
I have a dog and I am going to try my hardest to take her for walks. Lately, I've been taking naps~and they help. Funny how when we were young, we hated them, now they are a luxury!
You really have shown me a person who has learned to taken it easy on herself, example-the gym to walking your dog, etc. I admire that.
I also thank you for reminding me that the TINY things that I DO do count and I shouldn't dismiss those. I, like you, feel like I should have been a doctor or a lawyer, but I've got to stop being so hard on myself, I've been told that a few times, maybe I need to just 'BE'
You made me realize again and reminded me that I HAVE learned a lot the past 10 or 11 years. And through it all, I'm still standing. Your wisdom, means so much to me~really. Maybe I am learning to cope, I definately know I have learned a lot more about myself. Some I liked some I didn't. I'm pretty good at letting a person merge in front of me in a traffic jam but never realized your point about them having a bad day and it just may have helped ease *their* stress because of the 'little' thing I did. I hear you!
I'm glad that my sharing was helpful to you, even though my post wasn't the most positive of posts.
I heard a quote by Mother Theresa, it went something like this: 'It's between God and us, it was never between us and them anyway' I thought that was cool, because sometimes I think I can control my world, and/or the people in it when the reality is I cannot. So, I try to do right by what I believe is good and keep on believing that. I am still trying to master this! *smile*
Of course knowing other people care helps, I received a few responses to my post and am so very grateful that I was understood. I am grateful for the people on this board that did respond and to those that read it, I hope it helped them to feel they can reach out here~it took me some guts, I am a rather private person.
My mom is hurting, watching me struggle, but she is just trying to do the best she can, and I ask no more of her. I love her with all my heart.
Susan, again, thank you very much!
Take care of you too:-)
Posted by galkeepinon on September 13, 2003, at 1:10:03
In reply to galk, posted by justyourlaugh on September 12, 2003, at 19:29:21
thank you for your support. I will always be here for everyone the best that I can be, just going through a rough bump I guess. But man, they can get really bumpy, rocky, sharp, painful, hard, whatever.
I'm sorry to hear about your experience with Topamax and glad you're off it (I assume)
Lamictal worked for me in the past but I feel sick on this increase and I can't afford to go down again, not when I was doing so well on the Lex all these weeks.
I do believe that I may have borderline tendencies~no doubt, you're very smart yourself to recognze that.
being patient.......
holding on.........
I need you all too........
> please be patient..
> please hold on..
> we need you..
> j
Posted by noa on September 13, 2003, at 13:46:10
In reply to Please advice/feedback/guidance, posted by galkeepinon on September 12, 2003, at 6:09:17
Sorry--I don't have any med advice to give, but just wanted to say I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. It does sound like the emotional intensity could be from the changes in meds. That has happened to me at times when changing meds (different meds though).
Have you asked on the med board, too?
Hang in there.
Posted by galkeepinon on September 13, 2003, at 16:46:23
In reply to Re: Please advice/feedback/guidance » galkeepinon, posted by noa on September 13, 2003, at 13:46:10
Thanks noa, I think too, that it may have been caused by the Lamictal~intense change.
Yeah, the post was moved to the med board, thanks so much for your input and support~much appreciated.
Have a great weekend!
> Sorry--I don't have any med advice to give, but just wanted to say I'm sorry you are having such a hard time. It does sound like the emotional intensity could be from the changes in meds. That has happened to me at times when changing meds (different meds though).
>
> Have you asked on the med board, too?
>
> Hang in there.
Posted by Arrianna on September 14, 2003, at 1:21:18
In reply to Please advice/feedback/guidance, posted by galkeepinon on September 12, 2003, at 6:09:17
Dear Gal:
I'm so, so, sorry that you have been struggling. From posts you've written since, it does sound like you're doing better.
I had no idea what a rough time you were having. Haven't been checking the "social" board lately. I'm thinking that your depressive episode may have been from your new med. You seemed to be doing so well, positive, and happy in your other posts, and then, you began these feelings after your new med. So, from an outsider looking in, it seems that you may be adjusting to it.
If not, this will pass. I just feel for you, because I've been exactly where you are at so many, many times. I know how you feel: wondering about your life and feeling that you should be farther along than you are.
Just sounds like you have so much on your plate right now that it can be overwhelming: school, trying to better yourself, trying to live up to other's (your mom's) expectations, etc. That's a lot to handle!!
I hope you hang in there. You were there for me before: you supported me when I was feeling disappointment in withdrawing from school 2yrs. ago. That helped me so much to feel good about the choice I had made.
Just really wanted you to know that I can relate to exactly what you're going through!! Been there, and I know it'll pass for you. I used to feel alot of regret and shame about where I am in my life today: 29, quit school, laid-off, live in an apartment I can hardly afford, in a bad relationship, etc. etc.
Yet, I truly believe things happen for a reason. Things have gotten so much better for me and I know they will for you, too. Just takes time. And, you're prayers will be answered. God truly listens and soon you'll hear from him/her; whatever you choose to call God.
Please hang in there, and do what's best for Gal right now. Not your mom, not your friend's, but Gal. You're the only one who truly knows what you need. I've had the same struggle within myself about my mom: wanting to please her, and avoid hurting her. It's hard, but the only person I have to please is myself. I'm sure I don't need to explain, but we'll never make ourselves happy if we put others first.
Rent a movie. Go for a walk. Eat a salad. Take a bubble bath. Treat yourself to something you'll enjoy. You deserve it!!!!
Sincerely,
Arrianna> It's 3:30am and I'm up, been up all night. I just got done a crying spell and am trying to calm myself down. I'm on my 6th week of Lexapro and just increased Lamictal to 50mg. The thing is, is that my psychiatrist doesn't think I should be on Topamax OR Lamictal because I told him I rarely ever get manic. The only reason why he agreed to increase the Lamictal was because I told him I heard it was good for cycling, which I rarely have anymore, but wanted to be *safe* and that it helps more with the 'depression' side of bipolar, so why not add it to the Lexapro?
> I read some other posts and right now I'm wondering if Lex is going to fail me or the increase to only 50mg of Lamictal is making me feel like this? The things I cried about had nothing to with anyone except me. I have no motivation to complete school, something I started at a year ago (transferred as a senior), I'm so close to getting my BA, I'm killing my body with cigarettes and unhealthy food. I can't remember the last time I had a nice piece of salmon with the omega 3 fatty acids, I don't take vitamins, I haven't eaten fruit forever, I get NO exercise, and vegetables, come and go, hardly at all.
> When I get so upset that I cry over what I'm doing to my body physically, I want to change, but it passes, and I stay stuck in my sadness about it.
> Mentally, I am experiencing extreme fear and sadness over my life, what I should or shouldn't do, I get so confused. It's like I felt tonight that I have no idea what life is really about or how to handle it. I don't know if this has anything to do with the increase of the Lamictal or it's something that any medication just won't help with. I am so ill-feeling that the thought of looking for a therapist makes me cry even more because of all the time and energy it takes to find a good one. I've done so much therapy already but obviously it hasn't helped, at least not with the reasons I am crying, and feeling this way all of the sudden after doing so well for the first few weeks on Lexapro. I just don't have that energy right now. I think to myself if I'm making excuses but in my mind I'm not, I just can't handle the emotional stress in finding someone I can talk to who can help me, besides my mother, sort out these issues so I can get on with some kind of life. It hurts so bad. *crying* I feel like I will never get out of this rut and just don't have the motivation or energy to do anything at all. I am getting my hair weaved this morning and I don't even care about that, it's not going to make me feel better. I miss working, I miss being with people, and I miss my old self. I'm a total people person and want so bad to contribute to this world, and I have failed, and it hurts to know I have wasted the last 10 or 11 years not being *well* enough to do so. This has gone on far too long and I'm so sick of it. I'm crying because I am so lost right now, I'm not sure what to do, where to start, like I just don't care. Advice seems to go in one ear and out the other yet here I am posting asking for it at now almost 4am, still crying and asking for help. I guess I needed to vent and maybe whoever reads this can shed some sort of light for me? I feel like I'm a total difficult nut case, because I just am at the point where I really don't care about anything and that's not good. I've had almost 3 months to make up a term at school because I was in the hospital the whole month of May, and I haven't even touched the work. I have issues of my mother trying hard to control where I go to school, what I do with my life, and I'm 33. Isn't about time I'm able to live my life without my mother trying to live through me? I love her, she has been there for me, so I feel guilty in even talking about her in this post. I was sitting in the dining room just wanting her to come in and hold me, but she's sleeping. And even if I told her, she already knows I am unhappy, and it would just hurt her more to go through this same route of me saying, I'm depressed and crying mom. No one knows I'm crying, and my friends don't know how much pain I really am in, because I don't want to tell them. They have their own lives. I'm embarrassed to tell them hey-I'm not doing good. I don't know what to do, I'm sick of medication, I thought the Lex was helping, but ever since I increased my Lamictal 3 days ago, I have fell into a depression again.
> Does ANYONE have any experience with this happening to them with Lamictal, or does anyone think that meds are just not going to cut it for me? I took an extra 1mg of Klonopin and an extra flexeril today just to sleep and maybe calm down, this pattern happened back in April and I ended up in the hospital, I don't want to go there.
> Thanks for anyone who got this far in reading this, I needed to post hoping to get some sort of suggestion, to reach out, and to vent. Thank you for reading this far if you did.
> galkeepinon
>
>
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Posted by octopusprime on September 14, 2003, at 13:03:02
In reply to Please advice/feedback/guidance, posted by galkeepinon on September 12, 2003, at 6:09:17
galkeepinon -
please don't feel bad for smoking or eating fast food or whatever. Although I had quit smoking for two months, I have recently started again, and I'm giving myself a break. It's a crutch that brings me a small pleasure. You wouldn't suggest a person with a broken leg throws away the crutch, would you? Talk to your doctor, adjust your meds, and once you start to heal you can address your crutches.
I love and hate talking to my mom too. I love her because I know she loves me no matter what I say or do. But I know I'm breaking her heart with my suffering. Maybe she is trying to control you because she loves you and wants you to be happy. She just doesn't know how to help, so she goes about it in the wrong way. It must be hard living with your mom, too - I couldn't do that!
Be strong, seek out the care you need, post here. I am sorry you are hurting, and hope you can put a little tiny dent in your work.
Posted by galkeepinon on September 14, 2003, at 19:22:56
In reply to Re: Please advice/feedback/guidance, posted by octopusprime on September 14, 2003, at 13:03:02
hey you:-) Thank you. Just another example of being hard on myself. I should have told that to the 24 year-old self;) Thank you for your feedback~I appreciate it and will definately take it to heart.
Take care!
> galkeepinon -
>
> please don't feel bad for smoking or eating fast food or whatever. Although I had quit smoking for two months, I have recently started again, and I'm giving myself a break. It's a crutch that brings me a small pleasure. You wouldn't suggest a person with a broken leg throws away the crutch, would you? Talk to your doctor, adjust your meds, and once you start to heal you can address your crutches.
>
> I love and hate talking to my mom too. I love her because I know she loves me no matter what I say or do. But I know I'm breaking her heart with my suffering. Maybe she is trying to control you because she loves you and wants you to be happy. She just doesn't know how to help, so she goes about it in the wrong way. It must be hard living with your mom, too - I couldn't do that!
>
> Be strong, seek out the care you need, post here. I am sorry you are hurting, and hope you can put a little tiny dent in your work.
Posted by galkeepinon on September 15, 2003, at 0:32:09
In reply to Re: Please advice/feedback/guidance » galkeepinon, posted by Arrianna on September 14, 2003, at 1:21:18
Dear Arrianna, thanks for your kind words. I'm doing better, yes. Thank you so much, it helps so much to know someone understands out there.
I do have a lot on my plate and I pray so hard. I also believe things happen for a reason, so I just have to remember that, as hard as it is sometimes.
I hope you're doing well, and thank you for caring:-)
> Dear Gal:
>
> I'm so, so, sorry that you have been struggling. From posts you've written since, it does sound like you're doing better.
>
> I had no idea what a rough time you were having. Haven't been checking the "social" board lately. I'm thinking that your depressive episode may have been from your new med. You seemed to be doing so well, positive, and happy in your other posts, and then, you began these feelings after your new med. So, from an outsider looking in, it seems that you may be adjusting to it.
>
> If not, this will pass. I just feel for you, because I've been exactly where you are at so many, many times. I know how you feel: wondering about your life and feeling that you should be farther along than you are.
>
> Just sounds like you have so much on your plate right now that it can be overwhelming: school, trying to better yourself, trying to live up to other's (your mom's) expectations, etc. That's a lot to handle!!
>
> I hope you hang in there. You were there for me before: you supported me when I was feeling disappointment in withdrawing from school 2yrs. ago. That helped me so much to feel good about the choice I had made.
>
> Just really wanted you to know that I can relate to exactly what you're going through!! Been there, and I know it'll pass for you. I used to feel alot of regret and shame about where I am in my life today: 29, quit school, laid-off, live in an apartment I can hardly afford, in a bad relationship, etc. etc.
>
> Yet, I truly believe things happen for a reason. Things have gotten so much better for me and I know they will for you, too. Just takes time. And, you're prayers will be answered. God truly listens and soon you'll hear from him/her; whatever you choose to call God.
>
> Please hang in there, and do what's best for Gal right now. Not your mom, not your friend's, but Gal. You're the only one who truly knows what you need. I've had the same struggle within myself about my mom: wanting to please her, and avoid hurting her. It's hard, but the only person I have to please is myself. I'm sure I don't need to explain, but we'll never make ourselves happy if we put others first.
>
> Rent a movie. Go for a walk. Eat a salad. Take a bubble bath. Treat yourself to something you'll enjoy. You deserve it!!!!
>
> Sincerely,
> Arrianna
Posted by Rawudi on September 20, 2003, at 12:31:23
In reply to Re: Please advice/feedback/guidance » Arrianna, posted by galkeepinon on September 15, 2003, at 0:32:09
The best medicine and advice that I could give you whenever this may turn on or come over you ... is pull yourself out by the bootscraps to where there is lots of space around you. Then you must spot things in different locations. Just look for new things in your environment and while you do that, just say this to yourself as you spot different things in your environment ...
1st. "Hello" (you don't say anything else, but you direct it to the source of your upset.)
2nd. Get the source of your upset, usually in your head, to say "Hello" back to you.Repeat those two things over and over while spotting different objects in your environment, I will make you a wager, that if you did this long enough your mood will definitely change for the better!
Give a try and I hope things appear different for you after this!!!
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