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Posted by JoniS on October 4, 2007, at 8:02:24
I am happy for him but I am scared. He just told me yesterday, and he was so concerned for me. That made me feel good. He doesn't leave til January and comes back in April. But December is usually a short therapy month so I really only have about 5 more sessions to prepare. Yipes!
I am concerned for him, because he didn't even request this, but the board above him decided it. He has been extremely over-worked. he doesn't complain and says that he loves his job. I am actually scared that he will not come back. I told him just email me once a month and tell me he's coming back.
My T also told me that sometimes, when I seem to get confrlicting feedback from him or have a session that is not good, I may be running into his issues. He went on to tell me that his marriage is suffering. We have worked on my marriage a lot in therapy. I waver all the time but lately have been feeling more settled with staying. After yesterday I've started again fantasizing about being with him and stuff like that. I realize that will never be, but the feelings and thoughts are so hard to deal with.
I hope some of you can help me prepare to be with no T for over 3 months. :(
Joni
Posted by Dinah on October 4, 2007, at 9:09:15
In reply to Help! T is going on sabbatical :-(, posted by JoniS on October 4, 2007, at 8:02:24
I'm so sorry. How scary that must be! We care about our therapists, and want the best for them and worry about them too. As well as worrying about ourselves.
I might wish that the agency had decided to lower your therapist's workload instead of giving him a sabbatical. If his workload is too high, it's too high.
I know Babble understands and will be here for you. I wish I knew what more to say.
When my therapist was gone, I went to see two other therapists in the interim. It did manage to distract me and the second even gave me a few good insights, although I've likely forgotten them. But neither was my own therapist.
Posted by B2chica on October 4, 2007, at 9:12:13
In reply to Help! T is going on sabbatical :-(, posted by JoniS on October 4, 2007, at 8:02:24
just as a side note, is there someone maybe in his office you could see in case of emergencies/urgent feelings?
but yep! we'll be here as much as you need!
b2c
Posted by Dory on October 4, 2007, at 10:14:11
In reply to Help! T is going on sabbatical :-(, posted by JoniS on October 4, 2007, at 8:02:24
thanks for sending good thoughts my way.. i am doing the same for you.
you need to have him or someone help you find someone you can lean on in his absence.. it is amazing how many issues crop up when T's are inaccessible. You have a struggle to face and i know you can do it, but you should set up as much of a network as possible.
you can do the leg work, but he knows you best and should recommend someone that he thinks will be most helpful for you.
personally... if it were me, and it isn't... what i would request is that the "surrogate T" have a session with all three of you there... i would want to meet the new T while having my own T there.. but that's just me.
you know we are here... bmail me if you want.. i have a hectic schedule but i will always answer.
Posted by LadyBug on October 4, 2007, at 10:57:47
In reply to Re: Help! T is going on sabbatical :-( » JoniS, posted by Dory on October 4, 2007, at 10:14:11
I'm sure the news is hard for you. I tried to imagine how it would be if I were in your shoes. I don't like 3 week long vacations let alone several months.
Yup, we'll be here for you. I would try to see someone else while he's gone, at least a few times a month or something like that.
I hope he gives you something tangible to hold on to while he's gone. I also hope you can work through his absence during the sessions that you do have with him before Dec.
LadyBug
Posted by muffled on October 4, 2007, at 16:17:07
In reply to Re: Help! T is going on sabbatical :-(, posted by LadyBug on October 4, 2007, at 10:57:47
Oh MAN Joni, that SUCKS BAD.
Thats a LONG time.
Has he got someone he can introduce you to for support while he is gone? I agree with the others, you should have someone to goto, and hopefully you can meet them ahead of time.
Sorry Joni, this is really lousy.
Thats kinda why I don't mind my T going away so often, cuz I know she taking care of herself, and by doing so, she will be there for me in the lomg haul.
Ya, we be here for you Joni.
take care,
M
Posted by RealMe on October 4, 2007, at 22:46:30
In reply to Help! T is going on sabbatical :-(, posted by JoniS on October 4, 2007, at 8:02:24
Gosh; is there a back-up person for you who you could meet even before he goes, maybe with him present too? I don't know if that is logistically possible or not.
Maybe he thinks you will be just fine???
RealMe
Posted by Wittgenstein on October 5, 2007, at 6:54:55
In reply to Re: Help! T is going on sabbatical :-( » JoniS, posted by RealMe on October 4, 2007, at 22:46:30
JoniS,
I'm so sorry to hear this and can't imagine how much of a shock it came as.
((((JoniS))))
I hope together you can arrange a short-term back-up plan so that while he is away, you can be supported. Perhaps you can agree to have some form of contact - e-mail or phone calls, as well as having a stand-in T?
Thinking of you.
Witti
Posted by RealMe on October 7, 2007, at 12:55:36
In reply to Help! T is going on sabbatical :-(, posted by JoniS on October 4, 2007, at 8:02:24
Joni we will be here for you; I promise I will be. I may be a mess sometimes, but I still function at work where no one has a clue in the world, and so I am not a true basket case, LOL. Seriously, I mean it; do not despair. I recall my T at Menninger's used to go off every year for a month long vacation. I somehow lived through it. I should go back and look at my records (I have all my Menninger records thanks to T), and I will see what I did to handle it.
RealMe
Posted by JoniS on October 8, 2007, at 8:10:47
In reply to Re: Help! T is going on sabbatical :-( » JoniS, posted by RealMe on October 7, 2007, at 12:55:36
I put "thanks" on SG's post above. Sorry SG I didn't mean to take over your post.
I just wanted to say Thanks to everyone who encouraged me. You are all great!
Joni
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