Posted by sunny10 on May 23, 2005, at 12:25:46
In reply to Re: blabbity, blab stuff, who's my daddy?, posted by sleepygirl on May 22, 2005, at 23:51:57
yes, I had the "same" parents as you, guys, apparently...
Problem is that while we were growing up, those adult role models OUTSIDE of the family kept telling us that our parents knew best, that our parents would "provide for our needs", that our parents loved us.
We grew up not feeling entitled to happiness because if we "needed it", our parents should have provided it... and we were taught a very crooked "love"...we were taught that we didn't matter- however innocently it happened.
Now we are expected to change our perceptions just because we know, logically, what we DO deserve (bettr than this!). But changing the way you've been taught to think since birth is mighty difficult...
And to top it off, we don't want to "need" anyone again because we were so harmed by those that we relied on in the past.
I wonder why this is "so textbook low self-esteem", but the T's don't seem to get it...
I sometimes feel guilty for being so smart "see, you know how you should feel about that" and yet so dumb "so why can't you let yourself feel like that?"
T's say some really rotten things sometimes without even realizing it...
No, sleepygirl, I don't want to need them either!!!
poster:sunny10
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