Posted by alexandra_k on September 13, 2018, at 18:53:10
In reply to Re: Brain damage from a family meeting? » Lamdage22, posted by alexandra_k on September 13, 2018, at 18:47:55
see... my way out of this whole situation is to not to birthdays.
actually, no, that's not it.
when i was a kid my birthday was only acknowledged by my mother and my father sometimes. sometimes it was like they forgot. and i never told them. but it hurt a lot. especially because sometimes my father would make a big deal out of it. plan a big surprise meal out and so on. so i would think that a nice suprise was coming all day... or that he was teasing me by kidding about having my most detested meal for dinner (beans on toast) for my birthday. only it turned out he wasn't kidding. which, i guess, means he simply forgot. because he genuinely wasn't a mean man.
anyway... i don't like people knowing my birthday because i don't like to celebrate my own birthday anymore. it just reminds me of that time all the way back when... and then being so poor for however long... and my families were about not doing presents because of the poverty thing it took pressure off...
but americans are very fond indeed of their... social practices. of there being rituals about the sorts of things you do on birthdays and christmas and thanksgiving and so on.
i don't know how Germans are...
anyway...
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