Posted by baseball55 on September 16, 2015, at 19:23:54
In reply to I am so lonely in relationship, posted by raccoon on September 16, 2015, at 13:35:53
This is very hard, to be alone all day and feel limited in doing things because your English is limited. Of course your husband is not going to feel the same about his coming home as you do. He has been busy all day and needs time to unwind. Can you find something to interest you - a class at a local community college or other college or community learning center? A yoga or exercise class? A walking group?
There is a website called meetup.com where you might find groups to go for walks, hikes, to movies. If you do things with people long enough, even if you're shy you'll find yourself talking to people and hopefully, eventually, making friends or at least acquaintances.
If you are so shy that even group activities leave you feeling alone and lonely, maybe you could see a therapist about social anxiety and find a therapy group to learn how to be more comfortable and confident with others.
You are young! You will master English and things will get better. See this unstructured time as an opportunity to find things that interest you. Do not depend on your husband for all your sense of connection and fulfillment. He can't be that, even if he wanted to. We all need to find things that fulfill us.
> Hello everyone, I am new to this website, I assume here is the place share our feelings...
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> I am 25, get married in January, I was proud of my marriage at the beginning, but when time past, things went very wrong, I feel so lonely, my husband acts more like a roommate. We have no much things to talking about, I am a housewife, waiting he comes back was my biggest moment of a day, but sadly it wasn't for him.
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> I tried to go out and find some group to spend some time, but I am foreigner, my English is bad, and I am shy, I feel I am different from people around me, I can't get in.
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> I am very dissatisfied about my life, everyday is the same, lonely and empty. I know crying is helpless, but I can't stop it, I wish there is someone who can talk to me, cares the thing I cares, understand my feeling, or just give me some orders I can follow.
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> Am I ask too much, am I sick?
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