Posted by alexandra_k on July 7, 2014, at 4:45:46
In reply to Re: she's gone, posted by alexandra_k on July 6, 2014, at 23:25:15
the issue...
is that i need much (much much much much) more alone time than most people. and most people simply don't understand that. i have learned that i need to not make friends too close to me in residential halls. started to go nuts in aussie and had to move to another wing... that meant... my friends would call / text if they wanted to catch up. which gives me freedom / liberty to ignore them. or to reply that i'm busy or whatever. and still feel able to come and go or whatever... not feel like i have to hide away pretending to be busy. not feel like i have to make excuses or whatever.
the walls are too thin, you see. you can hear whether people are home or not if you choose to pay attention to that. so if someone comes knocking... i simply have times when i need to not open the door. otherwise... it is like i don't have a personal space at all. i need to be able to wander round finding clothes after a shower... to cry my eyes out if i feel like it... not to feel like i always need to be within a couple minutes of a social face to answer the f*ck*ng door. i'd never be able to relax.
and so... i'll smile politely... but otherwise not talk to / pretty much ignore people on my floor, especially. because if i got someone who really didn't understand to back the f*ck off when it is pretty f*ck*ng obvious i need them to back the f*ck off then that could totally ruin this space for me.
and so... i really f*ck*ng hope we don't get people who start jamming their doors open and turning their music up... banging about trying to let everyone know they are home... trying to turn the floor into a group flat. keeping track of peoples comings and goings... gossiping about them... could totally ruin this space for me.
i don't think that would happen... but i guess one never can quite tell... i'm just saying this because people came prospecting before... and i heard someone wondering to someone else who was in my room. which, of course, doesn't bode well insofar as i really don't see why the hell they would give a sh*t if they were about just doing their thing...
anyway... i guess we will see... i wonder if they do try and match people / floor mates a bit... i do think they try... kinda miss you already person who i talked to just the once... who was perfectly pleasant. if she was on a different floor perhaps we could have been friends haha. anyway... i never got this sense that she was making noise just because she could hear me (inadvertantly) making noise! so she was trying to resonate with the noise in a friendly way! thing that a lot of people do... she never did that. which was... good. i'll miss her for that. even if she did have her noisy friends over occasionally... could have been so very much worse...
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