Posted by SLS on January 10, 2013, at 6:29:34 [reposted on February 3, 2013, at 1:13:01 | original URL]
In reply to please join me, posted by Dr. Bob on January 10, 2013, at 3:58:09
> Hi, everyone,
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> I feel disappointed that I wasn't a more effective teacher of civility. Let's try something more actively supportive. People tend to feel supported when others join them. One way to join someone is:
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> 1. Express what you think they're saying.
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> 2. Give them a chance to say whether they feel joined/supported or not. If not, one or both of you can try again to clarify the communication.
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> 3. Build on what they said using your own experience (an I-statement). That gives others a chance to join you, which keeps the ball rolling, support-wise.
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> If you don't feel able to join, that's fine. Let the thread develop, and you might later. Or start a new thread with something different from your own experience.
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> Any questions?
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> I'd like to give this a try. Anybody else?
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> Bob
This sounds like a way to cultivate more positive energy and, perhaps, reduce negative energy by having positive and constructive people lead by example. Role models might encourage others to be more deliberative in the crafting their posts. Unfortunately, I cannot occupy such a role because I don't have the kind, tolerant, patient, and deliberative temperament that I believe would serve others well. I am motivated to learn these things and continue to work towards improving my communication skills along with making adjustments in my personality in the hopes that it will improve my character.
- ScottSome see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.- George Bernard Shaw
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