Posted by 10derheart on December 14, 2010, at 15:24:00
In reply to Re: a note of concern..., posted by twinleaf on December 14, 2010, at 14:52:46
Right, and Dinah pointed this out at the time:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20101029/msgs/970420.html
Dr. Bob (and hyperfocus as well) confirmed:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20101029/msgs/970950.html
I've sent what i thought were uncivil Babblemails to Dr. Bob in the past. I think in at least one case he disagreed it was uncivil, and in another....I can't recall for sure, he may have blocked, extended a block or given a PBC himself. I think it's a difficult balance. not wanting to stoke a fire by posting every detail of what went on behind the scenes (uncivil Babblemails, or, conversely those he thinks are fine but the recipient feels are uncivil), yet also realizing the community has no idea what, if anything was done. You're right, it is an uncommon thing. I think he tries to post something in the thread (IF there was a thread) if he acts so posters can understand what happened, particularly if a poster may disappear due to a block triggered by a Babblemail. Again, long time back, can't remember details.
You could ask Dr. Bob what happened with this particular situation. That's the only way to know. But, if Maxi deleted them without sending to Dr. Bob, I would think his hands were/are tied.
Also, as hard as it may be, we probably have to remind ourselves that 1) definitions of gossip may vary and 2) gossip isn't automatically uncivil under Babble guidelines, as Dr. Bob wrote. I guess other alternatives than Dr. Bob taking some action against anyone for Babblemail(s), like turning off your B-mail for a while, deleting B-mail from posters that trigger or with whom you aren't getting along, and so forth are some things we can do.
It's never going to be a case of finding a way to give complete shelter to those of us who are vulnerable. I wish, but it's just not possible or real in light of the nature of humans. So, I hope and pray posters will be kinder and more careful with one another, to the best of their abilities and that people who need more support will reach out for it in every way they can. For example, I see Maxime has offered an email address to friends, etc., in case it's needed because of any future block, so she won't feel cut off. That sounds smart and healthy to me.
MDD (presently in complete remission); ADD-Inattentive type; mild anxiety (not fomally dx'd)
Meds: Strattera 80 mg q day
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