Posted by Dinah on November 17, 2010, at 8:44:36
In reply to Re: FYI, posted by Dinah on November 17, 2010, at 8:16:18
I cannot bear to be here any longer.
I hurt so much for Phillipa. I hurt so much I am shaking and crying. Of course, I no longer self injure, so perhaps my pain and Phillipa's pain are of no concern to anyone.
I can't imagine what anyone could say behind the scenes that could hurt more than this very public thread.
I can't imagine that a threat of any babblemail could be worse than the reality of this. What on earth could Phillipa's husband do? Say nasty things? Start a thread to shame Maxime? Moreover *he* didn't do it. And there is always the choice of forwarding any babblemail to Dr. Bob without even reading it. No one need be assaulted by words in a Babblemail if it is expected. There is always the choice to delete a babblemail unopened if it is from someone you don't wish to hear from. If it is suspected to contain uncivil material, it can be forwarded to Dr. Bob with headers without being read.
Has Phillipa's babblemail even been forwarded to Dr. Bob?
I don't wish to be at Babble if this is considered an ok thing to do. I became a deputy because I could not bear to see these things. If I can do nothing to stop it, I cannot be here. It hurts. It feels like middle school all over again. Those people too believed they had reason to try and humiliate me. Of course, they could not. Their actions reflect on them, not on me.
Phillipa, the actions of those on this thread say a lot about them, and only tangentially anything about you. This thread might have been something that was justified against Hitler. You aren't Hitler.
(Lord of the Flies is generally used to refer to the actions of a group of those who reject the mediating role of civilization over the savagery of human nature. Not to refer to a single gossip. If there can even be a single gossip.)
poster:Dinah
thread:970146
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