Posted by floatingbridge on August 14, 2009, at 13:04:07
In reply to Re: avoidant and mild-moderate agorophobia, posted by Weekends on August 14, 2009, at 4:00:25
Hi Weekends, Thanks for responding. I can see how the last three months or even last year could really accelerate your SP. everyone is under so much stress and anxiety, waiting for the other shoe to drop. And you on the front line delivering the news!
> Everyone seems to have a problem, I am a good listener and I seem to attract confidences, so a "person" to me represents work.
Yes, I can understand this. I felt this way for many years--and sometimes still do. For myself, I figured out that I was always performing a role for people and could never be 'myself'--that elusive 'self.' Then it turns out, I didn't, don't want to share my real experience because I am terrified that I am awful. It sound like you are very high functioning (I never was.) Besides the respite you get being alone, which sounds like a legitimate source of relief and renewal for you--do you ever feel lonely? Or miss going out?
> Back to the question, how do I handle social anxiety---quite well and and yet very badly at the same time I know I should work on changing but in this case,
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> I need what I don't want.I'm not sure I clearly understand this last part. You need the personal connection that you don't want?
Well, I'm glad you posted here, and you have probably found, if you've read the archives, many folks here have SP in varying degrees for different reasons. I think late onset social anxiety is very responsive to treatment--if that is what you feel you have and what you might want.
kind regards,
fb
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