Posted by Deputy 10derHeart on August 4, 2009, at 19:59:42
In reply to Thoughts, posted by Kath on August 4, 2009, at 18:35:48
> I also don't feel really comfortable with posts to Dr. Bob that are obviously meant for HIM. There's no need for anyone else to read them.
>I hope you'll consider contacting him in other ways than regular posts.Please don't pressure others. For more detail on this guideline, please see the warning I just posted to others in this thread. I am going to consider any further remarks directed at Deneb, suggesting, telling or recommending she not post in a certain way to Dr. Bob to be pressuring. I'm not assuming any intent to be mean or anything negative, but I firmly believe repeating this to Deneb, over and over, is an example of pressuring and could be, even unintentionally, hurtful and not sensitive to her feelings.
> Deneb, it seems to me that your needs regarding communicating to Dr. Bob could be met by email or Babblemail.
Could you imagine that maybe they can't, or at least that posting publicly allows a release that just won't feel the same if say, she were to send emails that Dr. Bob might likely never answer? Maybe there are benefits to others who do read them - in fact - and I can't recall who - but there was a poster who told Deneb s/he likes seeing these posts and that they they bring a smile.
I'm not sure any of us are really qualified to know how others' needs might be met. I don't mean to speak for Deneb, as I do know she has mentioned in another post here that, after she checks with Dr. Bob in the future, she'll consider private communications. But I'm wondering if it isn't possible posting about these feelings where others can comment, question, support (educate, in a way) could be immensely helpful. For me, for example, being able to freely post on the Psychology Board about with powerful feelings of every kind about my therapist means I don't have to feel alone or isolated with them. Not that this applies to Deneb, or is exactly same, but I do think there are other ways of looking at this.
Thanks.
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http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#civil
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