Posted by Glydin 3.9 on February 14, 2009, at 8:21:36
In reply to I feel bad about thinking this *trigger??*, posted by Deneb on February 14, 2009, at 1:59:43
I think it's good that you do think about this issue.
I think the ultimate thoughts on feeling the caring by others may be: Do they care if we are alive or dead? It can be argued that some use the saving actions of others as evidence that meets the internal need of proof that someone does indeed care. I do think that happens....
I think it's good you recognize there are ways to preceive and feel the caring if others without the expectation they be responsible for our safety in living and dying. I think that's a good thing and I see that as growth for you.
Somewhat related, the factor of the changing expectations in illness versus wellness comes into the mix also. Let's face it, when we are ill, other have different expections of us. Sometimes, we can be caught up in that as a means of inappropriately meeting a need for us, IMO.
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