Posted by Enigma on December 29, 2008, at 14:12:29
In reply to Re: Longterm friendships, why so rare? » Enigma, posted by Phillipa on December 29, 2008, at 12:50:11
> Do you consider your wife a friend. My friends are always my partners. At days end that is who I want to be with. That's me. Phillipa
Hey Phillipa, long time no talk.
Yes, my wife is my best friend, but, as a guy, I just need some guy friends. My wife is lucky as she has a cousin the same age, and her cousin has a bunch of friends that go out and do the girl-talk stuff. Same thing I'm looking for, but with guy-friends.
Back in the day, when my depression wasn't so bad, I was working, and at least I had a bunch of guys that liked to go out and drink and such. When I went on disability for depression, and ended up losing my job, I pretty much lost all those "friends" too, for one reason or another.
I'm ridiculously lonely for some guy friends. The ex-coworkers which I mistakenly called friends, weren't really friends. After I left the company, each "friend" stopped contacting me, no matter how hard I tried to keep in touch with them. I gave up on pretty much all of them. They didn't even pop me an email once in a while asking how my depression was. Pathetic. I could commit suicide, and they wouldn't have the slightest clue for 6 months to a year. Hmm, can't stop ranting... they just let me down so many times, i've lost count.
Now I have this New Years Eve party to go to, but I'm so down, I really don't want to go. Now, my wife doesn't want to go alone, so I'm in a real bind. The party is full of people who are mainly friends of relatives, so I don't have any "real" friends there... meaning, "my" own friends. It's only through my wife that I even know them. I hope my mood improves so I can go.
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