Posted by Enigma on December 28, 2008, at 13:54:05
Long story short, I'm male, 39 years old.
I do not (no longer) have any ties to my HS friends, college friends, ex-coworkers and so on.The only "friends" I was able to develop (in the past few years) was from working at different companies, or so I thought. Over time, each one of these people, you learn the hard way, only cares about you because you are forced together by some mutual means, like work, in this case.
After I leave each company, each "friend" I thought I had there loses touch with you. They can't even be bothered to leave you an email asking if you are ok (I have depression) or just to say hi (even those that are all software engineers and are on a pc ALL DAY long).
I have sent emails to them on the order of 10 to 1. I'm sick of it and I'm done with it. They can go jump off a cliff as far as I'm concerned.
I'm soooo sick of their constant excuses and their blatant lies!. "Yeah, we'll get together at xx date, then they never respond again", and so many other promises. That's all I get from them nowadays.Why does this happen? Why is "out of sight, out of mind", so sickningly accurate?
We used to all go out and have the BEST times. So, why would these people not want to continue doing that? As an engineer, that's the question I just can't get past.
I don't think they are bored of me (if you knew me, that's pretty much impossible), but I guess it's always an option. I've been told that I'm the life of the party by my ex-coworkers. If not for me, 1/2 the outings we have would have quite literally sucked. Sounds cocky, but it's true.
Now, all my ex-coworker relationships have fizzled and I STILL want to go out and party (drink, go to bars, listen to bands). I have tried going out alone and I hate it. I feel like such a loser there all alone. I've tried to meet people, which has gone 50/50, but they're only good for that night only. No long lasting friends.
I'm so alone (even with my wife and 3 kids).. I NEED a couple good friends. Why is that so much to ask, so hard to find??
poster:Enigma
thread:871176
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20081222/msgs/871176.html