Posted by caraher on November 13, 2008, at 22:05:56
In reply to Re: Deneb, posted by Deneb on November 13, 2008, at 15:24:10
> I just wonder why some people get lots of support when they feel suicidal but people get angry at me?
>Did I miss something where people were angry with you? I'm sorry if you thought people were angry with you... I can say that I've never been angry with you, at least.
I've tried to help people who feel suicidal and I'm very selective about that, in part because it can be very draining emotionally. It's much harder to help someone who seems to go fairly quickly from posting about suicide to saying everything is OK; a big reason this is hard for me is that I can only ride roller coasters that go up and down over a longer period of time.
I'd like you not to feel as bad as you do from time to time, and feel a bit guilty that I can't be very helpful. But it is for a good reason, and I thought it might help if you understood how certain kinds of posts pose impediments to some people giving you more support. I don't think your thoughts are "bad" or "wrong" in a moral sense; they're just your thoughts. But I have thoughts all day long that I choose not to express not because they are wrong but because of a whole array of pragmatic judgments. I just wanted to suggest that you might get more support if you were able to apply a little more effort to refining your thoughts along the lines others have suggested.
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