Posted by Little Bird KK on September 5, 2008, at 20:21:35
In reply to Concern about not having any friends, posted by Little Bird KK on September 5, 2008, at 19:47:36
> Hi everyone,
> Im kind of new here, so I hope Im bringing up the right kind of topic that I need perspective on...here it is:
> Im 34 years old and I don't have any female friends at all, accept my boyfriend's mom. I would like to have female friends around my own age I can hang out with and talk to, but I haven't since 2003. It's really wearing my spirit down. My boyfriend fortunately doesn't care that I don't have any friends of my own, but I find myself bored alot and jealous that he does have friends. When I did have friends before 3 of my grandparnts died in 2002, they were often competative and ended up treating me bad once they got to know me, by taking out their insecurities on me. Or I had friends that were very one sided, and only wanted to do what they wanted to do when it came to going out on the town and having fun.
> After my grandparents died, I lost all of my friends because I was grieving too long and hard over my grandparents deaths, and they were too used to me always being a comfort to them and their problems, they didn't have time for mine.
> This is the history and pattern of friends I had in the past, and ultimately resulting in me choosing not to have friends for a long time. Now that time has past 5 years too long, and Im finding myself yearning friendship again, but too scared to look for it because of my history with friendships. Can anyone give me some helpful tips in making new friends, without appearing desperate? I understand going to places that have groups for people to meet new people, but I don't feel comfortable in singles groups, because Im not single. I do have a boyfriend/ fiance. Thanks to anyone that answers my post...
I forgot to add this to the social board...so adding it now...
poster:Little Bird KK
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