Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on February 5, 2008, at 18:40:00
In reply to Re: Feeling a fair bit better :-) » Jay_Bravest_Face, posted by Kath on February 5, 2008, at 15:22:53
> Hi Jay - thanks for your useful support.
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> "This too shall pass" is a really important concept that I must try to remember when I'm feeling really badly.
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> Went to therapist today & she asked about my sleep patterns.
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> She says we need 3 sleep cycles a night to be healthy. Each cycle takes 2 1/2 -3 hours.
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> I often wake up to turn over, or go to the washroom, so I'm going to take note of the illuminated clock to see if I'm getting my full cycle before I wake.
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> Thanks for your suppport & caring Jay. How are you doing?
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> KathHi Kath...
Glad to hear you are feeling a bit better. The 'this too shall pass' comment maybe sounds a bit simplistic and cliché, but it was such a wise and useful thing a fellow griever/mourner explained to me (with a much deeper story then just that simple comment) when I experienced my own tragedies. At the time, it didn't really click, and I even felt a bit pissed off and maybe offended. I was just drowning in so much grief and darkness. I remember asking the question I had read in a 'grief' book, millions..billions of times over.."What happens to a person who goes through this, and what do they look like when they come out the other end?"
But, back to the main idea, is having to break the massive, humungous big stuff into baby steps. Then when the pain became really acute, it was like, "hold tight...batten down the hatches...get somewhere safe." It was like a storm swell within a larger storm, and the law of nature is what goes up, has to come down. So, time actually becomes the healer, not the enemy that we so often make it out to be. In the meanwhile, you squint, clench your teeth, scream a bit, etc, and then eventually the break in the clouds, even if just temporary, comes.
Anyhow, I hope that makes sense!..lol. I am actually not a 'traditional' talk therapy type of person. I learn't most of the mainstream/ psychotherapeutic ones in my social work education. I can conduct and facilitate most individual and group therapies very well. But, I am such a 'feelings' type of person, eclectic therapies like music, art, drama, and existentialism really only 'work' for me.
So......we keep 'holding on'....right? :-)
Best as always....and thanks so kindly.
Jay
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