Posted by Kath on September 25, 2007, at 20:27:52
In reply to Re: Heartache in mind and soul :(, posted by Fivefires on September 18, 2007, at 12:08:59
Hope you're feeling better.
Sometimes we can only touch a little of our grief at a time, I think.
If that's the case, I think a part of us knows when to back off & shop!!! LOL or whatever we do to NOT feel as intensely.
(((((((((((((((((((you)))))))))))))))
from someone who has also suffered the agony of losing someone who wasn't good for me, but who I was SOOOOOOOOOOOOO attached to. As it turns out - attached in a very unhealthy way. I didn't even know who I was! I was 'his wife'. It was him caring about me that made me feel worthwhile. I had NO self esteem!!!!BOY was that in the past!
I know how it can hurt!
Hug yourself & say LOUDLY (even if you don't believe it) I AM TERRIFIC !!!!
My friend at the time told me to do this. She said do it looking into the mirror! I couldn't bring myself to do THAT. But I did the loud utterace & guess what. If you do it over & over every day, it does do something. Even thinking about it feels sorta cool now.
So: " I am ter RIF fic!!!!!" Many times - LOUDLY
Let me know how it feels.
hugs, Kath
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