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Re: :-( She didn't return AND broke up over phone » Jo U.K

Posted by Kath on March 7, 2007, at 16:01:43

In reply to Re: :-( She didn't return AND broke up over phone, posted by Jo U.K on March 7, 2007, at 10:18:55

Hi Jo,

No way they should have children, as they both have big substance abuse issues. They had said they didn't want kids anyway.

I actually would be very happy to never have grandchildren. I've had enough to deal with, with my children.

The latest is that when my son spoke with GF yesterday, she said she's still in love with him & to please keep the ticket 'open'...that she plans to come back, but doesn't know when & doesn't know if she'll stay.

MY mind thinks - Yeah - good one!!! get a free ride back to pick up your things to take them out there. He said he made her promise to come back by his birthday (March 31). Hmmmmmm.

At this point, I'd be just as happy if she doesn't come back. She told him that she's using meth on weekends. Hmmmmmmm. Is this the type of person who'll be good for him? Also, I trust her about as far as I can throw her at this point!

Do I sound bitter or what??

My meeting with the case manager yesterday helped me to realize on some deep level that all this is triggering MY stuff bigtime. It does make sense I guess. And the nice thing is that now that I know that, I am not feeling NEARLY as bad.

Also my short-term therapist through (as they say here) Mr. Kath's work - told me a good method of separating facts from feelings & it helps me see things. I'll post separately about that another time.

I send you hugs Jo.

My parents didn't split up, but my ex & I did & I think it wounded my son greatly when he was younger. Not so sure it bothered my daughter, but there were other issues in play there.

luv, Kath

 

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