Posted by Jo U.K on February 14, 2007, at 3:19:06
In reply to Re: Today was freaking HORRID at work, posted by rjlockhart on February 14, 2007, at 0:06:07
You know what - a LOT of people put up a front, and that includes the people you work with. You are not alone in doing this!
People have different reasons - insecurity, shyness, slyness. Even the guy who asked you for the money - he's probably just putting on his own show in front of your colleagues!
You dont HAVE to be part of this - as Kath said, laugh it off. You are NOT obliged to give any one any money, even if you said you would.
It sounds to me like this guy is putting on his own 'show' and you have been dragged in to it.
I understand that yo want to be friends, but you may be overdoing it (by trying to be the 'star) and this can make you vulnerable.
Try and build your self esteem by finding something you like doing in your spare time. As already said, volunteer organisations, clubs.
This will broaden your horizons, make you a more secure person so you dont have to try and be the star, then decent people will be drawn to YOU.
Best of wishes to you Matt.