Posted by Tate_ne on October 31, 2006, at 19:58:06
In reply to Re: My therapist doesn't believe in transference... » Tate_ne, posted by sunnydays on October 31, 2006, at 17:38:18
Thank's for answering! yay!
okay..sorry. ^_^
She told me that she dosen't believe that transference exists.
The lady she wants to refer me to dosen't even have a phd...
Many people say i act out because i want attention. Eariler this year, i was dissociating a lot and i have depression. I feel bad about it because I'm not as emotionally damaged as some of you are.
While reading your message, i was hurting because whenever i'm wih her, i would feel...i don't know. I can't really explain it. Sometimes she would look at me in such a way...i can't even bear to look at her for 5 or so minutes.
I need to get a boyfriend (haha) then i'll be normal...right? When i explain how i feel about her, most people say it's normal to feel that way about your therapist. But when i tell them about how i miss her and other...stuff...they frown. I haven't been in a relationship before...it dosen't mean i'm gay...does it?
I'm not going to do anything irrational. It feels like she's pushing me away. I hope she doesn't think i'm psychotic. that would suck. badly.
> She probably does care about you, but maybe not in the way you're hoping. She cares about you enough to know that there are issues you have that she cannot help you with, because of her therapeutic orientation, or what she psychologically feels comfortable with because of her own issues. She cares enough to suggest this other therapist to you.
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> And I think that she believes in transference, she just isn't trained to handle it if she's CBT, so maybe suggesting someone else is a way to help you handle it. It's hard to care about a T and wish they cared about you in the same way -- believe me, I know, I just had this conversation with my T last week. He was very accepting of my feelings, but he's not mainly CBT-oriented.
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> So maybe take her suggestion. You might be pleasantly surprised by this other T. And believe me, many of us here know how hard these feelings are.
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> Welcome to Babble!
> sunnydays
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> P.S. I'm in college, too, so don't think you're the only one or that it's weird because you're so young (I just say that because I've thought that)
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