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Re: SOMEBUTTIES HELPED ME, BUTT **trigger** » gardenergirl

Posted by corafree on September 19, 2006, at 11:50:07

In reply to Re: SOMEBUTTIES HELPED ME, BUTT **trigger** » corafree, posted by gardenergirl on September 18, 2006, at 22:19:48

Much appreciated GG.

Two complications could arise. 1) He might kick out my daughter and her two babies. 2) My son lives there; although has been spending all his time at his new girlfriend's place recently.

I'd not be able to take in my daughter in her condition. The condition is 'forced meth withdrawal'. I've knowledge of recognizing persons caring enough about themselves to put this evil drug behind them forever. I see just a sliver of it in her; because, it wasn't her choice.

Before my son met this girlfiend and was living w/ my ex all the time, I worried about him there w/ his father constantly going to the garage to smoke a mpipe. Growing too disgusted, I called his work supervisor. The supervisor 'caught him dirty' but what he did was unbelievable.

His reaction was to call me(?) and say, "You're just trying to get him in trouble. You just want him to lose his job." Nothing else was done.

Ya' see, my ex is 'everybody's gregarious buddy' (If they only knew?!) 'the guy you'd never think would do it'. People 'cover for him' just to keep his company! He was/is, I'm 'so sorry' to say and believe, a devil in disguise.

I could never cover for him. I yelled 'he hit me' from the highest mountain from the beginning. But at that time, the law gave 'the abused', a choice, ... Press charges?.

That's when I hid; the wrong move I kept repeating. Am I still?

Now, in my State, no questions are asked. Abuser = jail time and a hearing. I believe the law has recognized abused people aren't able to make responsible decisions in these situations, and, officers of law 'can't and don't have to be' on-site 'counselors'. This is good.

When first married, he was just talking one day, boasting about this-n-that, and said, "I'll never hit a woman." I recall thinking at that moment, 'What an odd thing to say?'.

I'd never been around people that hit or were abusive. I think that's why I didn't 'see it was a clue'.

Back to now; my gut says it's time someone 'did something more than talk', like 'taking action'.

In some respect, think the worry about this one of my two daughters, and my only son, is irrational, because w/ my borderline sort of thinking, I tend to let him continue exposing them to this evil because I'm worried about where they will live, sort of like I let him continue to hurt me because I was worried about the consequences of leaving him.

Exposing him for what he is doing wrong, to them, to me, will cause immediate upheaval.

But, it's 'the right thing to do', isn't it? (To answer this question, think of me as a child looking up at you, maybe a child who loves a person that is doing a bad thing.)

Maybe 'the bottom' my son and my daughter need to hit, is right here in my hands and voice.

Am I onto something here?

Is my allowing him to continue this behavior teaching my children to enable criminal activity. And 'wow' ... maybe my children have been waiting for me to be the one to take action for a long time, even knowing they might feel they hate me for a period of time, still wanting me to do it, even tho' there will be hurt. You have to fall to heal. I might be strong enough to 'take action'. I might be strong enough for the backlash. I know I am. This may be something I've seen coming. I don't know if you've read any of my posts about 'good things coming', but this might be a door to what is right and good, put right here in front of me for a reason.

Am I onto something here? Respond if you don't agree pls.

love, cf


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