Posted by Kath on July 21, 2006, at 14:19:28
In reply to Re: I'm Back.... Cloudy , AuntieMel - oh dear » Kath, posted by AuntieMel on July 21, 2006, at 9:41:35
> If he's not clean he's going to sound needy and down.
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> If he is clean he's going to sound down, too, as it would be too early in his recovery.
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> An email from you would be good. But short, very short so he doesn't have a lot of words to twist against you (addicts are champs at that.)
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> A simple "I love you. email me when you are better, but I can't handle you when you are using" will be enough.Good input. I am having trouble contacting the friend who has son's email addy.
I think I'll answer next time son phones (call display is GREAT). At this point, I'll probably say something like, "I love you & wanted to be sure you know that. I'd like you to call again in a few days because I have to sort some stuff out before I'm OK to talk with you. In the meantime, I hope you take good care of yourself."
I have an appointment with the counsellor on Monday, so I could discuss with her what I'll say next to my son.
I like what you said, though A.Mel - it's simple & direct.
I'd probably say "I love you. Phone me when you are better. I can't handle talking with you when you're using. It's too painful for me to see you hurting yourself."
or something like that. Maybe that's not simple enough. I dunno.I'm feeling pretty good today. Somewhat stronger. ALSO it's Friday & I'm tired & am glad it's the weekend!!!
:-) Kath
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