Posted by Kath on June 11, 2006, at 19:24:57
In reply to Re: Can I ask some questions about sex here? » Tamar, posted by Donna Louise on June 8, 2006, at 21:04:23
Hi - if you're getting a movie, make sure it's one that suits YOU. A sexy movie for one person might be quite different from a sexy movie for another person. Make sure it has what would turn You on; emotional content/romance - whatever would appeal to YOU.
I think fear of pain would be the first thing to deal with. I wonder if a sex therapist would help? Just a thought. I think that even after the operation, you're going to need to learn first-hand, that there won't be pain!!! I hope your doctor will be supportive in not just the mechanical part??? I think it's important to talk to you doctor about the things you're talking about here....he/she would take care of the mechanics - he/she might have really good suggestions about who can help you with the mental & emotional part!!
Best of luck, Kath
PS - I think one of the BEST ways to get feeling turned-on might be for you & hubby to agree 100% that you will NOT have sex (and be specific about what having sex consists of). THEN, fool around; do all kinds of sensual, enjoyable stuff. Either person can say 'enough thanks - that was nice' at any point. Sometimes when the pressure is off & one KNOWS nothing's going to happen, that in intself can be pretty much of a turn-on.
;-)))) K
> Thanks Tamar, I am afraid you are probably right and that I am not going to get my old self back by swallowing a pill although it couldn't hurt to try the viagra...
> The prize in the future that you mention just seems so out of reach. The loss of libido has made it easy to just think of it as too much trouble.
> I do have some props and literature, I need to get a movie. I will probably get embarressed.
>
> donna
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