Posted by Tamar on June 9, 2006, at 7:27:37
In reply to Re: Can I ask some questions about sex here? » Tamar, posted by Donna Louise on June 8, 2006, at 21:04:23
I had a look for more information about the condition you seem to be describing, and one of the things I read was that sexual activity should help the condition quite a bit. It seems that encouraging lubrication by frequent arousal will help to keep the vaginal lining moist and help to prevent tissue fissure. So, oddly enough, doing sexual things should actually help. But again, penetration probably isn’t a good idea if it hurts. Fortunately there are lots of other ways to enjoy sex! And in time you may find that penetration becomes possible again.
I’m sure someone has mentioned this, but it’s not a good idea to use soap or perfumes or douches or anything like that on your vulva and vagina, because they contain ingredients that can irritate the skin and make the condition worse.
I don’t know anything about Paxil, but I’ve been taking Prozac for a few months and my libido is severely reduced. However, if I make an effort to participate in sex I usually find I can get aroused, so you might find the same thing. Can you talk to your pdoc about the effect the Paxil is having on your libido? Maybe a change in medication could help. I know some doctors imagine that a loss of libido is a small price to pay for the mental health benefits of the medication, but I tend to feel that sexuality is a very important part of human experience and loss of libido can have negative effects on mental health. In your case, loss of libido is not helping your physical condition. So I think you have a good case for trying a different medication.
As for movies…It doesn’t have to be porn, unless that’s what you want! A movie that leads to a good fantasy could be just as exciting. Especially a movie with an actor you find particularly attractive. Or one of those “how to have better sex” dvds… there’s nudity and sexual activity, but the production values are better than porn. Whatever works for you!
I hope you find some solutions very soon.
Tamar
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