Posted by Kath on June 4, 2006, at 14:54:01
In reply to Ex 'Abuser' STILL Pulling My Chain!, posted by corafree on June 4, 2006, at 5:42:34
(((((((((((((((((((((((you)))))))))))))))))))))
I hope you have a therapist or counsellor or even physician, or pastor or someone trained, who you can talk with about this. If not, please, please try to get someone. Maybe you could phone a nearby hospital or mental health clinic. All these incredibly strong & painful feelings are so much for you to deal with on your own.
I've been through the ongoing bitterness & pain that I hear in you after a break-up. It can be SOOOOOOOOO hard to do this but:
do you want him to continue to live 'rent-free' in your head? in your life?
Having your daughter & baby live there could certainly feel like him trying to hurt you. BUT it is not necessarily that! I hope you can pull the plug on his perceived power over you. Doing that isn't easy.
I am so sorry for your situation.
Don't know if you're on meds. If so, I'd get an appointment with whoever gave them & print a copy of your post (so you don't have to say it all again, unless you want to) & make sure the meds person knows how your thoughts are spinning.
You are a good person. You deserve to be free to live your life starting anew.
If you can't get help; can't afford therapy or whatever, I'd suggest that even if you aren't a religious person, - approach churches to see if they have support for people in pain.
Perhaps there are support organizations for victims of trauma. Often there are Rape crisis centres.....that might be a place to start.
As to your (formerly abused) daughter going to live with him - it doesn't mean she's forgiven him.
Just because your kids aren't contacting you does NOT means they like him better. My son loves me dearly & only contacts me when he wants something from me!!!!
I send you my warm thoughts & concern. I hope you can get some real-life (person-to-person) support.
Kath
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