Posted by Dinah on March 25, 2006, at 11:03:20
In reply to Re: sorry, posted by special_k on March 24, 2006, at 20:49:01
But while some people cope with change really well, I think what you're going through is fairly normal for a large number of people. Going someplace new and trying to fit in is HARD. Trying to figure out the overt and unspoken rules for a new place is HARD. The anxiety makes it worse then it all swirls together.
My son's teacher said that someday he'll be able to say "Ok, I'm in that transition phase, and it feels terrible, but I know that eventually it will be over and I'll feel ok where I am." He's clearly too young to understand that. I think I may be too.
But... Over time you'll figure out where the best place to eat or grab a cup of coffee may be. And that confusing sea of new faces will sort out into those who are nice and fun to be with, and those who aren't. You may make one or two good friends, or you may at least know who it's safe to hang out with. At the beginning, till you sort that out, if one or two people are unkind and most people are neither particularly kind or unkind, it can seem like everyone's unkind.
This coming from me, the person who thinks my life will be effectively over if I have to move, and that my son will never get over it.
So if we have to move, maybe you can echo what I've just said to me.
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