Posted by Emily Elizabeth on March 6, 2006, at 8:49:57
In reply to I think I'm lonely, posted by Deneb on March 5, 2006, at 23:04:00
You are at a university, which can be very helpful in meeting people. Lots of clubs, events, etc. And, actually, probably a lot of people struggling with the same sort of lonliness issues. Do they have a club for volunteer work or something? It's great way to interact w/ others in a structured way (often easier IMHO) and to be appreciated.
Also, you might check to see if there are support groups at your university counseling ctr. Pdoc would probably know about them. I think such a group could help you realize that many of the things you experience are also experienced by others.
Okay, sweetie, I've just got to say it one more time: Are you getting psychotherapy? I know you hesitate to see someone in addition to pdoc, but unless you are seeing her consistently for 50 minutes EVERY week, I suspect that it won't be enough. We can help you w/ problem-solving things (like this thread) but we can't heal the bigger pain in your life. I suspect that therapy could help you feel more comfortable with yourself and therefore more comfortable reaching out to socialize.
If you want to use pdoc for therapy, you should ask if that is what she wants to do and if she could see you for an hr every week.
I haven't said it for a while, but I wanted to give you another gentle push toward therapy.
Best,
EE
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