Posted by TexasChic on February 22, 2006, at 19:34:08
In reply to Re: humanization » Shame, posted by AuntieMel on February 22, 2006, at 16:41:29
First of all, you're not alone. At 35 I've seen friendships come and go, and right now I'm kind of in between friends. Its hard, I know. But what AuntieMel says is true - helping others helps you feel better. In addition, just doing SOMETHING is always better than nothing. Getting out and mingling will put you in contact with more and more people, which gives you a greater chance of making friends. And volunteering is bound to result in meeting some decent people, as opposed to say, a bar.
But more than anything it sounds like you need to take care of YOU. Are you going to a therapist? I definitely recommend it. One of the main things I went to therapy for was learning how to communicate and interact with people better. And it helped more than I could have possibly imagined.
Of course meds are very important too if you're suffering from a chemical inbalance. It took me several tries to find one that made me feel normal so that I could actually pursue a better life.
Keep trying, its worth the effort. Even though I don't have a stellar history with friends, and I get kind of down sometimes, I'm still much happier than I ever was before.
-T
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