Posted by TexasChic on November 12, 2005, at 23:54:01
In reply to Re: SSDD, posted by lynn971 on November 12, 2005, at 22:26:28
Thanks yall. I don't think there's anyone at work he's trying to impress. I think because one girl in particular is such a talker, they just get caught up in conversation and don't realize nobody has spoken to me ALL DAY! I think its just easy for some people to take me for granted because I'm nice and easy going, and don't demand to be the center of attention. I just feel like a friend would eventually realize he sits beside me all day but has only spoken two words to me in 8 hours (which are responses to something I've said). And I feel like 'anyone' would eventually realize they're being rude, even if its unintentional.
I have a history of being a doormat, but its something I've worked very hard to overcome. So it really bothers me when I realize I'm doing it again (and I've just realized that's what I'm doing with this situation). It starts off with me trying to be assertive, but then turns into me making all the effort to maintain a friendship.
I'm just going to go to work on Monday, put on my headphones, do my job, read my book at lunch, and not make any attempt to talk to these people. I'm not going to be rude, I just won't put out the extra effort anymore. Eventually I know they will notice, but how long it will take is another issue. Not that I'm actually expecting any major reactions. Its just time for me to move on.
If 'cute boy' actually cares about the friendship we've built up, well, he's just going to have to step up. Its just way too much work and very little results.
-T
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