Posted by KaraS on May 1, 2005, at 16:21:38
In reply to Re: How to make new friends? » KaraS, posted by TamaraJ on May 1, 2005, at 14:00:58
> Hi Kara!
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> As we get older, it does get more challenging to get out and meet people and make new friends. But, there are so many ways to meet new people, it's really just about getting out there and doing things that interest you. You could take a special interest course (a friend of mine has taken a couple of courses on upholstering furniture, and is trying to get me interested in going to the next course!), join a book club, a cycling club, even a walking club (exercise and friendship would be good). There is volunteer work where you would meet other volunteers, so you would be meeting people there who shared some of your interests. And, don't forget about getting out and getting to know your neighbors. That can be fun. And, it's nice to have friends in the neighborhood looking out for one and other.
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> Take care.
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> Tamara
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> p.s. Did you get moved? If so, how did it go? How are the cats doing?Hi,
Thanks for your input. I have to push myself more and make myself do things. I'm sure it will be worth it eventually but giving myself the initial push has been hard. I would really like to join a support group to start with. I'll have to look into it more.
As for the move, it is now officially OFF. I agonized over this decision until I made myself so crazy. My stomach has been in knots. I was so worried about my cats and about giving up my autonomy. I like having control over my own life and making my own apartment decisions. I wouldn't have had any of that if I made the move. My friend is extremely inflexible and she thinks she's knows the best way to do everything. It was a disaster waiting to happen. We've already been fighting over things quite a bit and I hadn't even moved in yet. I still think that even if she didn't believe the experts' methods of integrating cats was the right way to do it, then just the fact that I was so concerned about it should have made her say that she'd be willing to try it. It's just too risky to throw them all in together and expect it to work out. I just couldn't subject my cats to that esp. given that one of her cats and her parrot are quite vicious.
I was really surprised at how well she took the news today (esp. since she lobbied so hard yesterday for me to go through with the move). But she was actually somewhat relieved herself today and was very sweet about it. I feel sooooo much better. It isn't going to end our friendship. She will often have jobs that are far from where she's moving to so I told her that she could stay over at my place as often as she wants to. I still need to figure something else out because this apartment is too expensive for me but for right now, staying was the best decision. I'm so glad I changed my mind before it was too late!
Thanks again for asking and for your continual support.
xxxxxooooo
Kara
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