Posted by TamaraJ on April 28, 2005, at 15:14:54
In reply to ok ill be more realistic, posted by rainbowbrite on April 28, 2005, at 14:47:40
OMG, you are so not a failure - not even close. Nobody who tries, takes chances and puts themselves out there is a failure. We may not always succeed when we try, or do as well as our perfectionist minds think we should have, but as long as we continue to make a concerted effort, we have succeeded to some degree. It's when we start beating ourselves up and berating ourselves for not living up to our own unrealistic expectations and when we stop taking chances that we fail because we are failing ourselves. Every mental slap we give ourselves and everytime we bang our heads against the wall for something we should have done or should have done better, sucks a little bit more life out of us, until we end up shells filled with regret and fear of not being good enough. Think of how far you have come and what you have accomplished - the big and the small. And, don't be afraid to give yourself permission to not be perfect all the time. I know this is just a corny verse, but I think about it a lot these days: "Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." So, it may sound stupid and inane, but as long as you keep getting back up, you will never be a failure.
Tamara
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