Posted by sunny10 on February 16, 2005, at 12:40:34
In reply to Re: dead on, Susan47, posted by Susan47 on February 16, 2005, at 11:46:29
she won't stay here, though, for the help.
And I am more ashamed than I can verbalize at the relief that fact brings me. I know that I can't "cure her", but the fact is that I don't know if I could even bear to be supportive of her if she did decide to do it for herself. I have "worked" on my family for so long (to even be any part of it is emotionally exhausting!) that I just wouldn't have enough energy to help her. Especially since we reacted so differently to the same parents (and as different aged siblings, our respective relationships with those parents were different). For instance, the only time she was physically harmed by my father is when he struck out to punch me in the face and I ducked. The punch struck my sister in the shoulder as she was washing the dishes. She just scowled and said to him, "watch it- you hurt me!" and went right back to washing the dishes. The fact that he did it often to ME just was never discussed at all.
So, yeah, there's a lot of strange stuff that is zooming through my head right now- not all of it "goodness and light", believe me!
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