Posted by jay on February 14, 2005, at 6:39:14
In reply to what you think » jay, posted by just plain jane on February 13, 2005, at 23:58:48
> OK, Jay, what I think:
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> I have been off the forum for most of this past month and few days and have not had time to read all the posts, so forgive me if I say something that has already been said.
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> First, what I know.
> I know it was January 8 when you wrote complaining that no women would date you.
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> Now it is one month and six days later and you are giving some girl an ultimatum. And, I don't mean to hurt you, but, have you read back through what you've written?
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> This girl has been behaving as someone who does not want to be in a relationship with you pretty much the whole time since you first met. I may be crazy, but I can smell rejection at 300 yards.
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> So, I'm wondering, why would you want to be "with" someone who does not care to be with you? How do you figure five or six weeks of acquaintance from total stranger to "love of life"? I don't just mean with her. It seems you are impatient about relationships.
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> As I have told my son, since every hormore in his body woke up four years ago, if a relationship is going to endure, if two people truly admire and accept each other as themselves, there is time. Lots of it. And over time. if it is to be an enduring relationship, that is exctly what it will do, endure.
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> I guess I'd best crawl into bed. I'm dozing off here.
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>Thank you and I appreciate your post and what you are saying. But when it comes down to talking for ten minutes or less a week on the phone, and being lucky if I get to see her for a half-hour in one month, well I think anyone would complain somehow. I have had a number of very long-term, enduring relationships and know what the foundation of them are made of, and this is not it. Plus add in all the other factors that are mentioned above..it just ain't gonna gel. I hope that clears up some things.
Thanks,
Jay
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